Saturday, July 28, 2018

The Alone Time

Hey Guys!!!!

Its so long since I spoke to you. I had a pilgrimage to fulfill for my mother. So I left for 4 whole days. Isn't it lovely?????

You know when we travel, we meet people of different culture, caste, tradition, outlook and perspective and its a small window to a world which we have not thought about. 

So I met a youngster, very energetic with very positive outlook, while I was talking, I asked, "Are you happy with your life?" He replied without any hesitation that he was, he loved his job.

I asked, how do you spend your life?

He replied,  apart from my job, I have my personal time of one week, where I go for adventure sports within the country with other people whom I am meeting for the first time for this trip alone and then we have family tours, sometimes it might be weekends or trips with all family and friends.

Hearing him, I could feel his enthusiasm of life. That is when I felt that giving the quality time for our own Self can bring a lot of difference in our attitude towards the world - a positive attitude, a spring in each step we take.

But there is one issue, especially in developing countries and if we are not well off and especially if you are a woman or a kid, the chances of taking a break and going for a tour is next to impossible.

I was at one point in this situation and believe it, it was really frustrating and very much depressing - I was literally a housewife and every penny was counted. I couldn't spend a single penny without giving an account for it. I really was angry with my situation and the people around me. 

So while I was sitting at my lowest point, a paper and pen was there in front of me (it was my turning point - my destiny). I felt like writing a story, but unfortunately I ended writing my frustration, my anger, my hurt or whatever, (emotions cannot be put into words), so each and every minute details- without grammar or language I wrote in that paper and hid it.

The next day, I found some time and wrote all my feelings of that day or whatever I felt within me again, sometimes my hurt was so extreme that I used to cry while writing - real heartbreaking tears - big, fat tears (nobody knew about this activity of mine and I made sure nobody saw my writing too) and after each writing I felt better. 

After one week, I decided to read what I wrote and it was so funny, I really felt "What crap is this Meena, seriously, you have been frustrated and angry for nothing!!!" I felt so stupid about my feeling and the wasted tears for  simply nothing. Until then, I was blaming others for my hurt, my situation, after reading my crap I knew, I was the only one to blame and nobody else. 

That is when I knew, its important to bring out the feelings without a second or third party's presence and see it again or read it again after expressing it. That is the key - rereading or reseeing it on your own, only then you will know what is wrong with you, why are you sad, why do you feel lonely, why are you depressed.

From that day onwards, I became conscious of each and every action of what I was thinking, speaking and doing. Here only I the person was there - just the physical me and spiritual me. It was the alone time of me. Whatever the people say, its their choice, that did not matter to me, but how did I respond to them - the what I thought, spoke and did was censored. I made sure I use my thoughts, words and actions as sparingly as possible and as wisely  I could, because of that I was at peace with me. It was a beautiful situation. There was no tension within me, no hatred for others, no thoughts of tomorrow - That is what I call the time of life - the alone time. No money can give you that and you can have it without paying a single penny.

But one thing I can reiterate - You really need to have an "Alone Time" to make your life a happily ever after with or without a price tag - your choice.

Have a nice day.

Take care guys.

Meena






Saturday, July 21, 2018

A Second Chance

Dear friends!!!!!


Some days back, one of my colleagues asked me, "Chechi (sister), we help others and they do not reciprocate in that same way, should we continue to help them?"

That is the usual way of thought for most people, we expect in return what we are giving, so I replied, "Then what will be the difference between you and them? Just give them a second chance or a third chance or a fourth, it doesn't matter, how much." Its better to lose count of giving chances than to lose hope in humanity because we all do need more than second chances in our lives at one point or another. So that we are able to make a difference for ourselves as well as for others.

But there is one big glitch in it, we will have to have a big heart to forgive to give them the second chance.

I'll give an example, Suhaz, my colleague, he is a very good guy, who helps lot of people a lot and he is a fast and good cook, he is punctual and ensures all the guests are happy. His designation cannot be concised to one, he is the reservation manager, he is a receptionist, receives guests, he also cooks food, serves food, acts as a bell boy, etc...etc... (Now you can relate to his service mentality). One day, the hotel he is working decided to lease the kitchen and their coffee shop to another business people and the new owners took over - the kitchen and the coffee shop. Though Suhaz job was halved, he helped the new staff in their transition, as our clients are mostly Europeans. But one fine day, the main chef decided to show his might, while Suhaz was eating food in the small space reserved for eating in the kitchen, the chef asked him to remove his person out of that place immediately, and he reiterated that space is for only their staff and no staff of the hotel are allowed entry.

Imagine the humiliation of Suhaz, but he just got up and took his plate and removed himself from there. It was a shock for all the Hotel staff (not the coffee shop staff). That is when the first question of this blog came into being, "Should we help these people?".

I don't know what prompted that chef to behave as such, but one thing be sure, we learn from this experience, be conscious with your words, this chef got a second chance but we might not get to correct this situation. 

Anyway Suhaz gave the chef a second chance, but before the chef generated a reason for a third chance I went and spoke to the chef. Do you want to know what I said, "Chef, please don't generate bad destiny for yourself by the wrong decisions you are creating by hurting people. I understand its your duty to maintain a very high standard in your kitchen, you can put up all the rules and regulations and that is fine with us, but kindly refine your way of presenting yourself to your subordinates, earn their respect than ruling like a Hitler. What you sow will be what you reap. Decide now what you want for yourself and act likewise. In real life, designation doesn't count but your thoughts, words and actions count, use it wisely."

That's what I have to say to you too guys, its always good to have a second chance, but I would say don't create a need for a second chance please......... Sow the right seeds, the right way.

Have a nice day.

See you.

Meena


Friday, July 20, 2018

Let God Provide - Enjoy your Ride

Hey Guys!!!!

Today I happened to meet a person who always asks me, "How is business?"

I replied, "Oh!!! by the grace of the Almighty, everything is superb." His eyes widened and said, "Really??"

If you look at my business sheet, its zero (0) and my bank account pass book it has a 3 digit number, so he should be surprised by my answer.

But I told him, "You know, God has a tendency to provide for us out of nothing. And I don't know about you, but I like to see God work His magic on me. So I let Him provide for me and enjoy my life, as it comes."

He smiled and replied, "What you said is true, I am sitting here simply but my body is working non stop and I don't even have a role in it. That is a good example of the miracle of God, isn't it?"

I smiled and nodded.

So, what about you? Do you have to do everything on your own, including the beating of your heart?

Yeah, you might think me sarcastic but believe it, aren't we overrating our existence? Like getting tensed in our worst situations. Getting angry for trivial reasons. Blaming others for the unfairness of life, etc...etc...

When we can't even make our nails grow a micromillimeter, when everything happens like clock work according to the decisions we make, what difference does it makes with all these negative emotions?

My one and only request is, kindly avoid negativity, even if you are immersed in negative situation (I know its a big request to ask for). I will give an apt example. Kerala has been having incessant rain for the past few weeks and rivers started overflowing and the main casualties were the low lying areas where roads and houses were flooded. My friend Sini's house ground floor was in water and there were fishes too, still she stayed with her spouse on the top floor of the same house and felt it as an adventure, when asked, how she is faring. Here she had a choice, she can either be depressed and blame her circumstances or as I pointed earlier, she could take it as an adventure (believe it, it surely is an adventure if we think positively, we don't get to have fishes and aquatic beings roam about our living room and kitchen and bedroom and toilet for several lifetimes for sure. Anyway, I would say Sini is one hell of a brave girl, who could think as such.). It takes great courage to think positively, if you have it in you, be sure, you are a winner in life.

Life throws all these curve balls at you several times in your life for sure,  you have only to make the right positive decision and the rest God waves His magic on you (The waving happens if you have only positivity), you just have to sit and enjoy the ride. So now I hope you understood why I say, just make the right decision and enjoy life.

See you soon.

Meena










Thursday, July 19, 2018

Being a WoW Teacher - Sr. Daisy Kozhikott

Hey Guys!!!!!

I would like to speak about a very good teacher, who really made a difference in a big way. She was a nun, her name is Sr. Daisy Kozhikott.

In life I have always wondered why I made the choices I made. One of the choices was to become a teacher, believe it or not I had the mightiest stage fear you could ever imagine and still has (undoubtedly). I tend to forget when I am in front of people, whether it is a kindergarten student or big guys. But my life forced me to take a job to teach students from Kindergarten to class 12 and at one point of my life even bank managers and bank clerks.

I didn't know how I was evaluated by my kids, nobody told me, how I was. I thought I was an okay teacher, please note :- Not a WoW!!! teacher, only okay. 

I only became a teacher to be with my kids always... both at home and school and during vacations too, until the time I had to let go off them. But when I resigned from job I got the best compliment from the most unsuspecting quarter - my kids.

Do you want to hear what it was? "Mom, you were the best teacher that school could ever have. Kindly come back." Usually our own children never acknowledge our value, but when it happens, believe it, its shocking and the credit goes to one true teacher, who taught me how to not be a loving and best teacher - Sr. Daisy. She is and will be my role model as a teacher.

I know you will be surprised, when I say, Sr. Daisy always breathed on my neck for each and everything. She was both my English teacher as well as my boarding mistress. So what happens in the boarding carry forwards to the school and vice versa. When a student is always the centre of attention for all the wrong reasons, what will the student think? She ain't no good for anything. I was in that category. I was always summoned for all the wrongs and received all the punishments and the irony of it was, everybody felt Sr. Daisy cared for me more than all the students except for me. But you know what I regretted most? She requested me to meet her in the evening of the day before my departure from school - The last day of my school life.

Expecting another lecture, I didn't meet her and she came to me that night, but by then I had already slept. The next day, she came to me and said in one line, "Meena I expected to meet you yesterday, anyway, now I cannot say much, but I would like you to know that you were special and I really cared for you." Imagine my shock!!!!!

She had 3 years of my life and she never ever uttered a single word of kindness. If I had known at any point of my time there, how she felt, I would have been a different person (I think). So when I became a teacher, I made sure that I don't repeat the only mistake Sr. Daisy made (expressing her feelings). Don't doubt, she was a hell of a teacher as well as the best boarding mistress. Now you know why I became a teacher of my kids? 

When I became a teacher, those kids of school taught me a few lessons of their own - To just give wings to the imaginations. Its so beautiful to go on their wings of imaginations, innocent and wild. I don't know how many stories I made up when I was with these guys. If ever you believe I am a writer, it's courtesy to my students. But the language I am now using is courtesy to Sr. Daisy Kozhikott. Thank you Sr. You made me the best person in three aspects of my life - Being the best mother, teacher and the english language I speak. 

The only regret I have now is, I never met her after my school life. Well!!! If ever I get an opportunity, I might meet her (I hope, I don't know.) I am not keeping any promises!!!!

See You.

Meena








Wednesday, July 18, 2018

Spur of The Moment - Biju

Hey Guys!!!!

Today I took a rickshaw to go to the bank, this bank is near the road and it has some parking space too inside. Usually the rickshaw drivers stop on the road and I cross the road to get into the bank, but today, this man turned the auto into the driveway of the bank and stopped exactly at the doorstep of the bank. Imagine my feelings or should I say surprise? That is what I call making a difference. I gave an extra tip for him. What do you think?

There are thousands of professionals but if you really love what you do, you will make sure that your clients are happy, by going an extra mile for them. Hope you could make yourself go that extra mile...... And be the best in your field of expertise. Here the money is not the counting factor, it is the service, the money automatically comes to you for sure. Want to bet????

So I come to the last classmate who was more of my kind than anyone in that class - a dreamer??? His name is Biju, he was a very good artist, he used to draw a lot, he was an easy going person, a last bencher and always smiling.

Whenever I think of him its his ready smile and a lot of sense of humour to boot. I don't know whether he took his life seriously then, but one thing was sure, he enjoyed his life. I don't know whether he still paints but if he has continued, then for sure he might have perfected the art.

The thing which I learned from him is, just slow down, go easy and enjoy life. I used to feel that he was the spur of the moment guy. His decisions and actions are very quick and fast. I think that influenced a lot - don't wait, just decide and go for it. I got this quick thinking and acting upon it without waiting from him and it got enhanced when my dad passed away without even a moment's notice. So I knew, its always better to be fast in doing what you have already decided to do.

Thank you Biju, it was a great privilege to have been part of your life and showing me to act fast

I would like to thank all my other classmates - Sini, Annie, Anjana, Jancy, Rency, Jinson, Saneesh and Gain. You guys were the best I could ever have in my life and the best influence I am very proud of to have cultivated in this long journey of my life.

Hope you guys have some good memory of me, but if ever I have hurt you, please do forgive me as a faulty teenager's misdemeanour?

I have never had any regrets to have been in SHEMHS when I was there. One thing I can guarantee, it was my destiny that you guys play an important role in my life and I salute you all for tolerating me for 3 years straight (13, 14 & 15 yrs)

See you.

Meena

Tuesday, July 17, 2018

Gain - The Don Juan

Hey Guys!!!!

Though I am a social worker at heart, I do business for a living, believe it or not, I should be the last person to be in that profession because I don't know how to put a value for my service. When ones heart is involved, we just do it for love, kindness and all the heartly feelings, instead of money gain. So materialistically I have nothing to be proud of except I am there. Even now, my mom is angry with me for squandering my education for nothing. Well!!! I should thank my parents for giving me the best education in the best of schools, it helped me being me, making me happy, knowing a world which is far beyond my imagination and living my life to the maximum.

Why I am saying this? I am happy what I am doing because I am following my heart. Do what your heart says and that is what is important in the end, that is the right path to get the ultimate fulfilment in life. No matter what the society says, if you feel strongly about what you do or want to do, then I would always say, "Go for it" - Take the risk, so that, when you are laid in the coffin, you wouldn't regret, thinking, "I should have given that work or the deed at least one try, now its too late."

So about my classmates, who helped me be me. Today I am talking about Gain, the last bencher. He was actually a Don Juan of the whole school. He was both good looking and smart. He was an all rounder both curricular and extra curricular activities. He knew about the world than the whole class put together. He was full of jokes and laughter.

But personally, I have felt that he had some sadness within, I don't know because I have never asked him and he has not shown it or told it. Its just a feeling,

There is one personality of Gain which I have seen several times coming out in the forefront. He is a champion of the weak. He never tolerates bullying and he goes to any extent to help whoever is in need. And he has no qualms to face any obstacles to fulfill his obligation and above all, if ever anything backfires, he never blamed anyone. He just took it upon himself all the responsibility.

Imagine a 13yr old, championing for the weaker section and taking full responsibility of the consequences? I have watched the faces of several kids in school, studying in lower classes whom Gain has helped - the relief on their faces. That is when I became aware that people help other people not for any recognition or anything, just for the sake of being there when in need. Isn't it a good reason to help? Now he was popular in the school because he was nice to all.

I would like to thank Gain for making me conscious that a good heart is the only requirement to make oneself a popular person or should I say a Don Juan?

So, now you know that age is not a factor to help people, wherever you are, whoever you are and however old you are, you can help. Hope you would have nothing against it?

See you.

Meena


Monday, July 16, 2018

Comfortable in your skin - Saneesh

Hey Guys!!!!


Today, I would like to say something about Saneesh. He was always a smiling boy and a very simple person. Though he was not very studious, he worked hard to make a difference. I have never seen him joke or brag or outspoken.

I have always thought, that every teenager had a tendency to  dramatize or overreact their circumstances. They would do anything to gain attention, but Saneesh was not that type, to be frank, only when the rolls were called we came to know, that Saneesh was there. I think, all students of my class got to learn from him about being complacent and non dramatic.

Saneesh really made a difference with his presence alone for the whole class. He never criticized anyone and so everyone was comfortable around Saneesh. He was there to curtail our over zealous personalities by just being there, it brought a clear perspective of what to speak in public. Even the teachers gave him a special preference and nobody ever complained because he was innocent to the very core.

There is one thing I learned from Saneesh, being non focal point doesn't make a person less important.  Saneesh helped me learn to shut up and not act overly smart. There is no need to prove to anyone who we are, just be comfortable in your own skin and that makes a lot of a difference.

Thank you Saneesh.

Hope this lesson is food for thought for you too. 

See you.

Meena









Friday, July 13, 2018

Face Value - Jinson S Velamkunnel

Hey Guys!!!!

Today its the boys of my class I am supposed to speak about, believe it or not these guys were gentlemen through and through but if you ask me very deeply about them, I would not know a single thing, because this was a convent school, the nuns were overwhelmingly protective when it comes to mingling with boys. That doesn't mean we cannot talk, we talk, joke, etc..etc.. but not the heart to heart talking eh!!!

Still, I would like to write what I felt about these guys and how it made a difference in my life, it might not be true from their perspective. I am just jotting what I felt and make sure you understand, its my perspective okay????

So I will start with Jinson S Velamkunnel. He is a first bencher and a very studious boy. He was a real masterpiece in thinking. His thoughts had depth. Its like if we are talking chemistry, he thinks in chemistry, but does not connect to the real world, for eg :- 2 Hydrogen atoms and 1 Oxygen atom combine to form water, but in his mind he is with the atom phase but not the water phase. Seeing his way of thinking I thought he might become a scientist or physicist or an astronomer because nthing deviates his thoughts, very focused.

He was a hard worker and good at all things intellectual. Due to his way of thinking I used to get a small reprieve from being the sole member of being the butt of all jokes in my class. (If you want the truth, we were the only people who were the laughing stock of the class.)  But he accepted all the ribbings with grace, that is what I learnt from him. It was like a switch, after all the laughing, he gets serious so fast, I was awed by his way of changing from joke face to serious face. He really loved to know. You know the Newton's way of thinking (gravity).

Why this trivial reason(butt of all joke) is important to me?

I was a person who liked to be invisible (be inside a shell) but in a class of 13 students its next to impossible and to make myself vulnerable to one and all and get humiliated of my own making is next to torture, but when I saw Jinson accepting the joke as a joke and not as a humiliating experience, I knew, I should take a feather from his cap and just let all the world laugh at me because they were all without malice, it made a lot of difference in my attitude towards life. You know after several sessions of me being a joker I found out one thing, I can make everyone smile or laugh without cracking a single joke (frankly, I hadn't a single bone in me that could count as sense of humour).

When I look back now, I know as per rule I was the only person entitled to be the butt of all jokes, but God sent me an angel in the form of Jinson to show, how to take jokes in ones stride.So I would like to thank Jinson for teaching me to accept jokes at face value because that helped me in prioritizing how much importance should we give for the hurts and bad mouths we receive from the people around in life (which is nil). 

Thank you Jinson. Hope everyone understand the importance of Face Value.

See you.

Meena 

Thursday, July 12, 2018

The Choice - Jancy James

Hey Guys!!!!

I am sorry, I was not able to write for two days, its not because I was lazy, its just that I was sick. So while I was sick I saw a movie. In that movie, the mother of the heroine says to her daughter, "Don't ask God what you want, just say to God your problem and He will solve it for you more perfectly than imagined."  Isn't it Wow!!!! I was touched and it made me think, that is what we all do, we plan and waste all the time to solve our problem (which is incessant). When in real, we are making our life more tangled and complicated. So how about "Let God do the needful and we enjoy life????"

Great!!! Now back to my friends. You might wonder why I am continuing with my friends, you know we have several organs and parts in our body, but each part is unique, we cannot replace it with any other part, likewise, each person helped me to be me as you see now. 

My dad would always say, "just find one good trait in the person who is in front of you and try to incorporate it in your life, it makes a lot of difference. Then you will know how unique the person is." As a result, I was always in search of the good in people, friends, families and that made a great impact in my life - This world is a better place to live, eventually I am also growing from zero to +1. And as the Bible say, "What you sow, so shall you reap." What I believe is what I get - And I believe - All people are good people.

Now I have Jancy James, I have never seen so focused a girl in my life. She was multi talented. Though she was small in stature, she was a power house of talents. She studied, danced and above all she had long hair. She was in the boarding and to be frank, I didn't know she existed there. I have never seen her play.

whenever I remember her, the first thing that comes to my eyes was the way she took care of her hair. She applied oil on it, did her hundred strokes on it when all were busy playing.  She was always studying or doing whatever she was supposed to do, very systematic. She never was idle even for a moment. Since she could have played and been sad and squandered her time and blamed her parents for separating her from her family, etc..etc.... But she never did anything of that sort. She was a go getter. She was first in dancing, solo and group. Academically, she was in the first five rank category (it was her first time in an an English medium school, so you can imagine how much she has to work hard to achieve it along with dance practices and her personal care, etc..etc...)

That is when I knew, she was one heck of a person at the age of 13, who had real strength of character to go for what she wants and believe it even after 5 years, she never deviated from it.

That made me think, it is our CHOICE whatever it may be, that decides our destiny, not  people or situation.

That strength of will is more than necessary to survive and overcome our own mind and thoughts because our mind is the worst enemy which makes us deviate our resolutions and dreams and whatever.

You know, the funny thing is, even now, it is a Herculean task for me to wake up at 5 am in the morning but as I said, its my choice, I can decide. If  I want, I can sleep with 1001 reasons, In short, I try to, (believe it!!! I really try every single moment) consciously to make my choice with the strength of character.


I would like to thank Jancy for showing live for 5 years continuously that the strength of character doesn't come accidentally but by choice.


The best part is after all this struggle and conquering only you will know the difference and that is worth it!!!! More worth than all the life put together you will know you have conquered the Himalayas!!!! You have taken the first step to the moon!!!! And you will be gaining the gift of Life. The smile you give unto your self, the proud feeling  of conquering and if it happens every day, what a wonderful day will it be!!!!

Thank you Jancy.

See you guys. Hope you would also see something good in both friends and foes and share it.

Meena

The Choice - Jancy James

Hey Guys!!!!

I am sorry, I was not able to write for two days, its not because I was lazy, its just that I was sick. So while I was sick I saw a movie. In that movie, the mother of the heroine says to her daughter, "Don't ask God what you want, just say to God your problem and He will solve it for you more perfectly than imagined."  Isn't it Wow!!!! I was touched and it made me think, that is what we all do, we plan and waste all the time to solve our problem (which is incessant). When in real, we are making our life more tangled and complicated. So how about "Let God do the needful and we enjoy life????"

Great!!! Now back to my friends. You might wonder why I am continuing with my friends, you know we have several organs and parts in our body, but each part is unique, we cannot replace it with any other part, likewise, each person helped me to be me as you see now. 

My dad would always say, "just find one good trait in the person who is in front of you and try to incorporate it in your life, it makes a lot of difference. Then you will know how unique the person is." As a result, I was always in search of the good in people, friends, families and that made a great impact in my life - This world is a better place to live, eventually I am also growing from zero to +1. And as the Bible say, "What you sow, so shall you reap." What I believe is what I get - And I believe - All people are good people.

Now I have Jancy James, I have never seen so focused a girl in my life. She was multi talented. Though she was small in stature, she was a power house of talents. She studied, danced and above all she had long hair. She was in the boarding and to be frank, I didn't know she existed there. I have never seen her play.

whenever I remember her, the first thing that comes to my eyes was the way she took care of her hair. She applied oil on it, did her hundred strokes on it when all were busy playing.  She was always studying or doing whatever she was supposed to do, very systematic. She never was idle even for a moment. Since she could have played and been sad and squandered her time and blamed her parents for separating her from her family, etc..etc.... But she never did anything of that sort. She was a go getter. She was first in dancing, solo and group. Academically, she was in the first five rank category (it was her first time in an an English medium school, so you can imagine how much she has to work hard to achieve it along with dance practices and her personal care, etc..etc...)

That is when I knew, she was one heck of a person at the age of 13, who had real strength of character to go for what she wants and believe it even after 5 years, she never deviated from it.

That made me think, it is our CHOICE whatever it may be, that decides our destiny, not  people or situation.

That strength of will is more than necessary to survive and overcome our own mind and thoughts because our mind is the worst enemy which makes us deviate our resolutions and dreams and whatever.

You know, the funny thing is, even now, it is a Herculean task for me to wake up at 5 am in the morning but as I said, its my choice, I can decide. If  I want, I can sleep with 1001 reasons, In short, I try to, (believe it!!! I really try every single moment) consciously to make my choice with the strength of character.


I would like to thank Jancy for showing live for 5 years continuously that the strength of character doesn't come accidentally but by choice.


The best part is after all this struggle and conquering only you will know the difference and that is worth it!!!! More worth than all the life put together you will know you have conquered the Himalayas!!!! You have taken the first step to the moon!!!! And you will be gaining the gift of Life. The smile you give unto your self, the proud feeling  of conquering and if it happens every day, what a wonderful day will it be!!!!

Thank you Jancy.

See you guys. Hope you would also see something good in both friends and foes and share it.

Meena

Saturday, July 7, 2018

Consistency - Rency Alex

Hey Guys!!!!!

The next classmate which I would like to introduce is Rency Alex. If ever I think about her it was the way she maintained her beauty and the way she dressed up. She was also good at studies and she has been studying in this school from kindergarten.

She had a competitive spirit and always came in the category of first five ranks. (Please note  I was in the last or the second last rank holder). So its always good to appreciate all the intelligent people, which was literally the whole class.

Now back to Rency, her consistency and persistency is what struck me to the core. From day 1 she always dressed well and made herself so beautifully that it was indeed a sight to behold. Usually at the age of 13 (personally, even now), I never cared how I presented myself but she did and still continues, even at this age is something to appreciate about.

In life consistency is an asset which we really should cultivate and seeing Rency, I knew I can't compete in dressing up, but I made sure, I keep my promises.

I know, you might roll your eyes, but believe it for kids, keeping promises makes a lot of difference. If the elders break promises, it broke our hearts.

Then another trait I want to be consistent about was waking in the morning. Even now, its a big tug of war between the real me and the lazy me. The real me knows the importance of waking up early, but the lazy gives a 1001 reasons not to, but since I had already decided, no matter what I will be consistent, I wake up.

So all these good traits I have incorporated  was because of Rency and even now I consciously do it, just to prove myself I am consistent. Thank you Rency for this life changing lesson, I appreciate it.

Hope you too could incorporate this beautiful trait for a better life.

See you.

Meena

Friday, July 6, 2018

God's Plan for the World - Lailamma

Hey Guys!!!!

One of the most simplest classmates I have had is Lailamma. I have never seen any big kid so childlike. Lailamma came from a lower middle class faily. The only difference between Lailamma and me was, she worked in the convent instead of playing. She was an upbeat person. Her main focus was the headmistress of our school, Sr. Jonas. Her world revolved around this nun. If the nun was angry, Lailamma will wilt within the second, but she forgets it and returns back to her normal self.

She was not the type to hold grudges. I don't know whether she knows me, even though we were 13 in class, she was like a butterfly.

Regarding the studious part, she was not very brilliant because she wasn't used to having to learn the subjects in English language. Even though it was very difficult for her to understand, despite all odds, she learned really hard and tried to pass just to get a smile from the headmistress and I think and feel that the headmistress reciprocated her affections too (Don't get me wrong, I would rather be far away from teachers instead of looking at their faces for all the nuances of their expression and getting caught and getting detention, Forget It!!!!). Anyway Sr. Jonas never showed her affection publicly, but that didn't matter to Lailamma. She just wanted to bask in the presence of this nun.

You know, there were kids who goaded Lailamma to make her angry by saying, "Sr. Jonas  is mine." And you know what her reply was, "Feel free she is all yours." (usually, in boarding there was a conflict in the matter of affection. In fact there was a boarder who really had a big crush on the boarding mistress and when the boarding mistress talks to me, this girl would come immediately to make sure I don't have any soft feeling for her favourite teacher.)

I am really lucky, that I was able to witness this type of feelings in my lifetime for real like Lailamma's, believe it, no movies could picture it so perfectly. It is simply Wow!!!!


Lailamma, showed me :-

  •  How you just let go everything for Love. 
  • The extreme sacrifice one gives for love is worth the risk.
  • Reciprocating love is not expected.
  • The only thing that matters was just love for the beauty of loving.
Thank you Lailamma. You really nailed God's plan for the world for all the world to see beautifully, hats off!!!!!


See you guys.

Meena

Thursday, July 5, 2018

Self Importance - Anjana Chandran

Hey Guys!!!

You might be wondering, why I am writing about some of the people specifically. There are three reasons.

  1. I am dissecting my life when it started to matter and that begins with - People.
  2. To get clarity for me the details which brought change in me.
  3. If ever these friends of mine read this blog, they would know that they were special at least to one person-Me. They made a difference for me.
Today I am speaking about Anjana Chandran. We both had a special connection, before I was enrolled in this school in Idukki at the age of 13, we studied in the same school, same bench in Kochi the year before. Its really incredible the circle of life.

She was really a studious child, an only daughter for her parents and she was the focal point of her parents. If ever I think of pampered children, I will think of Anjana, please note, its pampered, not spoiled. She is not over talkative. She doesn't joke often, but I think I have heard her crack one or two jokes in the four years we were together.

She wasn't very sociable because it was her background, but still she touched many hearts with her silence. She was a very good dancer as well as good in studies, but I have never seen her in vain. Her father graced the highest post in the Hydro Electric Project in Idukki and with his help, we could see the inside of this place. If it was my father, I would have strutted (I think), but Anjana was Anjana, for her, it was like, we were taken to some backyard garden, it was not a big deal for her.

The first and the last thing she taught me was that there was nothing self important for helping people. Its just given freely.

I wanted to say, we don't learn everything from one person and no person is without a message for us. So, I hope you guys find that message for us because its what we should take from them.

See you.

Meena

Wednesday, July 4, 2018

Don't Underestimate The Power of Tears - Annie George

Hey Guys!!!

Annie was another classmate of SHEMHS, Moolamattom. She usually sits in the very next bench before mine in class. She was also a boarder, like me. But the worst part was, it was her first time to be separated from family. Annie had everything in life, she had parents, siblings, money, intelligence and focus. Despite having all these, she felt sad and alone. Since I had a policy of non attachment to anyone or anything, I tried to keep a distance, but when we see someone in tears for wanting to go home, I could relate to it easily and I had no choice but to just point that she is not alone in that and I too am there facing the same problem.  I have never ever seen, so much heart break like I saw with her and believe it, she had it for the whole 3 years she stayed in the boarding.

Annie was one heck of a person. She was very strong and motivated when it came to studies and she believed in prayers, saints and God and she used to kiss all the statues and pictures of saints no matter where it is. Seeing her devotion our boarding mistress predicted that she would become a nun. That much was her obsession with anything regarding prayer.

 She had no inhibition in expressing, it was through her I could see the depth of feeling when separated from loved ones.

I remember, when she came for the first time in the boarding, she was sad and crying. The reason, she didn't have sufficient curries and she missed her family. She was taller than most of us, so I was thinking, how can a big person feel sadness or the feeling of separation. She was lucky that her home was not that far but still she cried with tears.

One day, she said, "Meena, I am feeling very sad and I have tears inside me, can you sing a sad song for me, so that I can cry." I readily sang because I loved singing (But can I pass a secret, I usually knew only the first paragraph fluently). And I sang this one paragraph over and over again until she says to stop. That is when I felt I can sing. That is when I felt that tears do have a healing power. You know there is one more hilarious factor, I made sure she could see my back or I face the mountains sitting side by side because once it so happened, I couldn't stop laughing because of her facial expression when she cried. That is not a good thingfor a person who is hurting right???? From then on, I never saw her cry but surely heard it.

After crying she felt so invigorated (energetic) that she was ready to face the world. And you know that is when I knew, I can help a person to clear the block of tears. Personally, I would rather go the opposite way during this grievous situations but there are situations which forces us to be there. The best part of it was, we had a perfect place to vent our hurt and sorrow because we wanted privacy.

At least she had the best idea to vent out her anger, sadness and  frustration - through tears. That was the best lesson I learnt from her. Tears are the best healers in life.

Do you know, whenever I have my tears clogged in my heart, I will think of Annie, now when I remember it,  its hilarious, but back then, it was heart breaking for both of us because we cannot describe our feeling with words, it was bottomless.

So guys, I would like to thank Annie from the very bottom of my heart, who taught me to always carry a vial of tears in ones system, so that you don't get hurt from your life experiences. Tears help to face the world courageously. Just cry and see the difference.

So, kindly don't underestimate the power of tears.

Take care.

See you.

Meena




Tuesday, July 3, 2018

Predictability of Life!!!!

Hey Guys!!!!

Sorry, I was not able to write yesterday because my uncle passed away. Though I am writing about the people who really had a profound impact upon my life, I will have to deviate here for my uncle.

It was a sad moment yesterday, because this uncle, Mr. Joseph changed my destiny. Can you believe it?? Which I could have done without. But it happened and here I am attending the funeral of him. We all know that there are lots of milestones and cornerstones on a road, we take it for granted when we are sure of the way, but when we ae new to the place we really look forward to have it. So when each new milestone is in front of us, we feel happy because we have reached it. But we don't give a thought when its passed. Only when I was sitting in the church, I was thinking of uncle and I realised, he really was a destiny changer for many people. And they all blame him for intruding in their lives. I know my uncle personally, he always think what is good for others and he acts upon it. In the end, it backfires on him. Isn't it tragic???

The role my uncle played was, he brought me and my family back to Kerala when my dad passed away. He was a success one time but he became a failure through and through. You know, usually people think money is synonym to success. But I would say happiness and love is synonym to success and he didn't have both in both materialistically as well as spiritually by the time he turned 50.

But the worst part was, he was in feud with one of  his younger sibling Mathew. They both didn't attend the same functions together. If one is there the other wouldn't be, just like a 3D card. And all the family members tried to get them to reconcile the difference, but unfortunately, it never happened until last, when Mathew went to meet the older one. They spent together one whole day.

After two days Joseph had a stroke and passed away after three days that is day before yesterday. Isn't both my uncles lucky??

We cannot predict life, but we can live life. Don't hurt anyone and hate anyone. They are part of you. That is what matters the most and the worst part, I met all or almost all my family members whom I haven't seen since school, that will be above 20 years.... What an irony!!!!

See you.

Meena