Thursday, March 29, 2018

Tips to Save Love Marriage

Hey Guys!!!!

Love Marriages!!!! Hmmmm....Its so fantastic an experience to be in Love. And I love to see the happiness when these guys decide to get married. In India, the elders, just sigh and shake their head and say, "Its no use, they are doomed to break." And Lo Behold!!! it so happens as such.

Do you think, its jinxed? Everywhere in the world its the same. Do you really feel that the Lover couple purposely do what they do because they want to break up the relationship, which they have decided to be happily ever after?

We all know the answer to it. Its Emphatically No. Then why is it they break up?

Well, we'll check out how we can save a break up from my perspective.
  1. Full stomach is a must. Have a secure job, or else, love can sustain until the stomach rumbles, afterwards, believe it or not, you are going to fight for sure - For Food (ha..ha..ha.. what a joke!!!)
  2. Little acts of kindness is a must. Whether you believe it or not, the lady is the light of every house. If you can help them with some chores, like washing plates or setting tables or wiping the plates or just bring coffee for her in bed(at least on a Sunday), then your life will be secure.(Coffee!!! you got to be kidding, right???)
  3. Keep promises. If you don't promise, its fine, but if you promise something, make sure that you follow it or else, you are doomed.(In this hectic world, keeping promises should be compromised!!!!)
  4. Try not to over talk and especially when there is a fight (as disagreements do tend to happen), just shut up who is on the hearing end and accept whatever the other has to offer, no matter, you are in the wrong or right (because, anger is one thing, that has no ears, eyes or brains.). After the big shouting from your partner, just say, sorry and end it, believe it, when the shouter cools, he/she will think rationally and feel ashamed of the act.(Then how are we to clear the air if we are not communicating?)
  5. Forgive and Forget. We all make mistakes and loads of them, luckily, no one knows what is going through their partner's mind, or else, this world will be a living hell (want to bet? ha..ha..ha..). So just because your partner does wrong doesn't mean, that he was unfair to you. Just make sure that you know the circumstance of why he did that and imagine, if you are  in his situation how will you do it. Just speak openly, how you felt and please don't shout or be angry, just state your feelings, that's all. (Forgive, yes, I can do that, but forget? No way, that's impossible!!!)
  6. Faith is a must. Have faith in your partner. I know its a long shot, but without that, you cannot survive even a day in each other's company. I remember my friend, he was actually a womaniser and when he married, he was always doubting his wife whenever she looks at any male person, whether young or old (Rolling Eyes!!!!) and imagine, she was literally jailed in her house. So its not the partner who is in the wrong, its you, who has gone through this same situation and took the wrong path and still continues, that is why, when you see your partner in the same situation, you believe that she/he will do as you did and that is why you have no faith in your partner. (You got to be kidding, when you put the blame on me for the actions of my partner.)
  7. Throw away your ego. You know, when you marry, you are not two persons but one. So please keep ego out of the door when you are with your partner, be your natural self. Its much more better company than the puffed up you. (But I have my own identity, my own ambitions and aspirations, he will have to accept me as I am. I can't change for my partner)
  8. Never hurt your partner either with words or by actions. Words are more powerful than actions. It really bruises the other for life. A knife wound heals, but nit a word wound. (How am I supposed to know whether my partner is sensitive, yeah, we have fun and its part of life to joke and poke fun at each other)
  9. Everyone has weaknesses, and if your weakness hurts your partner, then throw it away. Its not worth it. My dad used to drink alcohol but he never hurts anybody, he is very loving and kind whether he is drunk or not, but my mom gets so angry, when she sees her husband drunk that she starts scolding him, advising him, what not all thus creating a gap between two souls with just a pint of liquor. If my dad had just avoided having liquor then the world to him and mom would have been a better place.(Everybody has their own choices and the freedom to do whatever they want, so its not correct to put restrictions for petty weakness, then what is there in life to enjoy?)
  10. Decisions should be made together because marriage is not a One Man Show, its a partnership business. (Forget it, we know each other heart to heart. So even if I decide alone, my spouse is going to welcome it)
  11. Give genuine compliments and appreciate the presence of your partner in your life, believe it or not your partner is your stepping stone to success, even if its the thousandth time, your partner gets uplifted with just a few good words of appreciation.(Isn't it going over the top, complimenting always?)
  12. Never ever think, that there is another better person than your partner because there is only one right person for you and nobody can replace your partner, or else you will have to restructure the bone system with several rib bones missing and adding according to the gender, as you are supposed to be fitted with just one. So find the right one wisely ( And how am I supposed to find that one rib bone?)
  13. Be in Love always and the best way to keep the love intact is through the stomach. Try to learn to cook both of you, that is the easiest way to the other's hearts. (You know, we have restaurants)
The tips above are for normal people, there are many who psychologically ill, for them, medical treatments are the only way out.

     14. To know if you have the right partner, give 10% of your income to the very needy, it can be given to your parents or teachers, or brothers, or any family members, or neighbours, or friends, or whoever. So while giving, in your heart (Pls Note, not through your mouth), just say, "God (if you believe in God, if not, to the creator who created you from nothing), I am hereby depositing my 10% to you, just note it in my name. (The person who gets it might or might not appreciate it, but you felt to give your 10% of your earning, even if it is the smallest shilling to the needy person and that is right). And you know what happens? Your partner , if he is not the right person, either throws you out or your partner goes off from your life and that is that because the higher power protects from all things wrong. If your partner is the right person, no matter what, the relationship stays lifelong. Do you believe it? I do.

In the end, I would always advise Live your life with Love, but don't marry, then you don't need to follow any of these tips above. What do you think, all married couples would agree but the young ones, hmmmmm its their life, their decision, their love and their marriage. Live Happily Ever After Guys!!!! And I would always recommend, Just Love for the joy of loving....

(Spl. Note :- The bracketed statement at the end of each tip is the general attitude of the youngsters, that should be considered, as the key to breaking)

Bye

Meena

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