Monday, November 16, 2015

Never Ever Say Goodbye!!!

Dear Guys

Today, I had a very sad experience, when I came face to face with separation of one of my best friends.

You know, that is when we feel that nothing is predictable,

Remember, "The moment we have now is the best moment and it doesn't necessarily last". 

Each word, each action, each attitude do count in the long run, when we create our own destiny. But we tend to forget that in the long run, the destiny is created with many others tagging along. In short, our  destiny do have a greater impact on others than to us.

The destiny starts with Words falling from our mouth.

I will give an experience of mine.

My children, I have two. They are very arrogant, some times, I really hate that when they show it to me and I do not tolerate when they show that attitude.

Once, it so happened, that my younger son, said something arrogantly to me and Bang!!!! I  smacked him right on his mouth. (In India, we parents have the privilege to both pamper and punish our children at the right time. And that is a necessity for all the parents, who want their kids to be a good citizen. And there is no point waiting for them and making them understand at the right time at the right place, than the time it happens.) He just stared dumbly with his hand on his mouth.

Then he asked, "what was that for?" I said, "Never ever utter a word of that sort, not only to me but anybody else in this whole wide world, understood!!"

"But I didn't mean in the wrong sense."

"Well, it came from your mouth in the wrong way. So, do not bother to use it again right or wrong(you should have seen his face)."

From that day onwards, he made sure, he never used those words, well I have not heard it for sure, at least he will remember my smack, When I heard it, I was shocked, My son, speaking to me, in such a manner? No way!!!!!! still my hand tingles when I remember it. So surely he might too!!!

But after that incidents and several incidents, I know, if you want something good to happen, better shut your mouth

Now back to the present, when my friend said, that its time for her to move on, I wondered what might be the reason and her reply brought my son to mind. The same mistake, my son made, happened to her, but in this case it was her friend a very matured person who hurt her with his words.


You know as we grow older, we feel, we can do anything and that is right. But truly, this life on this Earth is not an easy one, we all walk on broken glass, one misstep and that is going to pierce us. And physical hurt can heal but not the hurts created with words.

Do not take it for granted our relationships, marriage (husband-wife), parenthood(parents-children-parents-parents), friends, colleagues, whoever. More than the actions, its the words that should be put under lock and key, censored and minimalised.

I say, and say, do not hurt with your words, its more bruising than anything. At least you can control what comes from your mouth, can't you not? I try not to talk at all. I am really scared to do that. Truly, when I say that, I have gone through all these things and faced the consequences over and over again. So I do not want all of you guys to repeat and get to live your life in misery.

Frankly speaking. I train my children to do the same (Just don't over talk and crack jokes a lot), but unfortunately, I feel, they do extra service to make amends for my closed mouth too.

Anyway, in the end, I will be losing one more friend for the sole reason of bad mouth "Gosh!!! what a tragedy.

Be known, each person has only a certain period with us, whether they might be our spouse or our children or our teacher or our student or our colleague or our boss or whoever. There is always a time span for everything, person or situation or things.

Be aware, no matter who you are, cherish whatever you have, until you have them and when their time to leave arrives, let them go happily without any regret,  because that is how it is.

For others, too its the same situation. They are also letting us go, even if it is heart rending, we too have to leave them one day. It will happen, no matter what.

So treat everybody with respect and love. They are entitled to it and we are also entitled to it.

And please make sure to create a good  destiny for you and for others.

Cherish whatever you have, then you will never regret it when it is taken from you. That is a Surety I can give you.

Now, you know why the poet worded

"Chalte!!! Chalte!!! Mere Yeh Geet Yaad Rakhna, Kabhi Alvida Naa Kehnaa..." (while going, remember my song and never ever say goodbye). We create a good memory never ending... loving... happily ever after.....

Take care.

Meena


Friday, November 13, 2015

Throw Your Trash

Hey Guys!!!!

I am continuing from where I left yesterday.

I had requested you to just let yourself give a break from your  and let whatever thoughts come, to pass it through you, right?

And have you tried? What did you feel?

Well, I will say it for you, your mind will be a junk yard in a moment,  am I right?

I will give an example, yesterday, I had an experience where one client asked me, whether there is any chance of getting one room for three days in a specific hotel and when I checked there weren't any availability. So, I said, no, its not available and they left immediately and I didn't feel sad or odd.

But after a few minutes, my mind worked, "Hey Meena, you could have proposed another hotel and for a best price too, and then the thoughts started swirling around, if I had done that, it would have been better, if I had thought about it this way, then I could have another business, etc...etc.. a 101 questions went unanswered. Do you know what the ending was?

I was still in the same situation, sitting in the same chair, in the same office, doing nothing but shuttling and shuffling ideas.  So, what was the point in letting myself a break?

Nothing, just created a clutter, in the sense of thoughts. But in the sense of an experience of missed opportunity, Yes. I learned something.

I know, you will be rolling your eyes, but, its true, everybody has to get an opportunity, not just one. So, if even if you have an opportunity, you still do not get to utilize it but that is utilized by somebody, who needs more than us. Just remember, we are entitled for a better opportunity. I wanted to tell you, that do not think, that you should not feel bad when you miss certain opportunities, its like that or else, our "Self" will know what to do, It will direct you in the right direction. So, just let it go. Now we will have to sort out the clutter of all thoughts, we cannot really sort out any thoughts, it just comes and distracts each and every time, we sit idle or when we want to be at peace and at that time do not go and watch movie or play games or read books, just be your Self as a third person and watch all the drama your thoughts are doing and just Select All the thoughts and delete it. Yes, put it in the trash, yes I mean it put it in the trash, whatever happened, has happened, accept it live it and throw it and get ready to be stronger. That is all.

If you continue with the thought process, you will get angry with yourself, your situation, your friends, family, God, etc...etc... who has no connection at all, don't you think?

But putting in the trash is not very easy, your thoughts will come and haunt you whenever you are free, that is because the mind knows that if it distracts you with these trivial things, then you would be focused on these petty petty issues  and make a mountain, instead of letting you get to the soul of the problem or let you solve the problem, so that you can solve it and move it to trash.

So, as a person now you should be aware, when 101 questions are sprouting in your mind, remember, you are being deviated from the main course.

In the Bible we call it Satan.

"The mind governed by the flesh is hostile to God; it does not submit to God's law, nor can it do so." Romans 8:7

"Once you were alienated from God and were enemies in your minds because of[g] your evil behaviour" Colossians 1 :21

So, now you know who the Satan is - your mind, my mind, our mind. That is what is keeping you in reaching you to God. Any doubts?

Well, I will answer it tomorrow.

Take care and Be Happy.

Meena


Thursday, November 12, 2015

Boring!!!!!!?????!!!!!!

Hey Guys!!!!!


Today, I have not done any work set for me. You might think, what I did?  nothing, just wasted my time, that is all. But did I?

I do not think so, but if you look in the sense of work, yes, but as a human being, we are entitled to just be idle or just be there for us, for me. I have only myself for me. If I cannot spare my own time for me, then who will? So, here I am watching a very romantic Bollywood movie and smiling like a joker, crying like a crypot and I do not regret it even for a moment.

I remember once when for the first time, when my dad taught us to swim, it was like fighting the water with legs and hands and hearts and strength. Once, when I got the feel of it, it was just a matter of enjoying it with caution. Everyone knows life is to be lived, but that doesn't mean always we should live productively, its just letting go off the leash of oneself and get a breather, where you do not have to decide, just let it be.

 It is at that time, we open our self and some thoughts, which has stuck in our hearts, the deeds which we had done, which we didn't do, which should have been done, etc..etc... The words used, the attitudes shown, etc...etc... all comes to us during this break time and that is when we will have to evaluate our doings, that happens without our knowing.

You know the key word is "Unknowingly",  we tend to watch movies, read books, play games, etc....  because we say we are bored, but in truth, we do not want our past deeds good or bad not come and knock us off . So now you know, why this world including me are so busy, either reading (its about me), which people say is good, but in fact its very very bad because you are running away from truth.

When I watch a movie, its the same theory, running away. But well, it will catch up, don't worry, at that time I will be forced to face up all the things I have done, there will be a time, when I will not have anywhere to run to, where I am unable to do anything.

Do you know, why I said this?

So that, your actions when get accumulated, it kind of pounces on you, making you feel a bit lost and lonely. You are born alone and die alone, that fact will stare right on your face which is a simple truth, no matter how many friends you have, how many family members you have or whatever activities you can do, you are still alone in the very depth of our being.

But if you are aware of it time to time without it pouncing on you is far better and much more smoother a transition from the physical world to the spiritual world. You are comfortable with the alone you and you feel like going and being with the alone you, that is when you become spiritual.

So guys, just for a second at least, give yourself a break and let whatever is coming to haunt you, hear it out and rectify it or savour it. It will go on its way after that. Its like a spiritual bath - a healing process. Then you feel like enjoying life in the real sense of the word - The Inner Happiness, where no boring touch.

Take care.

Have a great Life !!!

Meena

Tuesday, November 10, 2015

To All the Owners of the World, My Blessings!!!!!

Dear Guys,


You might think, why all these formalities. Well, to become an owner of a firm or anything is not an easy thing, they have the courage to take a risk, along with that, they tend to help lots of life for the people who are not lucky to own even a spare of cloth without working.

And work, its not easy to find. In this scenario, to own a work force can be had by only a select few. But the attitude of the workers can discourage the mentality of the owners.  Naturally, they get hard hearted to the working class and just focus on making their venture a success.

But these are all not I want to talk. No single person has the same experience as the next person, but the feeling generated will be the same because that is the basic oneness of humanity - the soul.

Now, we are again deviating from the topic of what I wanted to say.

Today, I do not know why, I happened to meet one of my colleagues, who happened to resign from her job. You know, in India, its a very big decision for a lady to resign her job and if the said lady has only a basic education, then the chances of making a change from whatever her current position is next to nil. She would tolerate a walk on the fire and still retain her job. So when I heard the lady, a mother of two and poor to boot throw away her job, I was just shocked, that is a very small word to what I was feeling. But I didn't show the actual emotion of what I felt and gave her half a dozen of tissues and an ear to hear her vows.

If I may say so, the place she was working had a set of very good workers in each section, which, if I was a boss, I would keep them in my very palm of my hands, so that, I would never make them consider leaving my firm, in any sense of the word and one such person was this lady. I told her so, "you know, the loss is not yours, but theirs. They would never get such a good worker, a dedicated worker as you."

Anyway before long, this lady had several job opportunities lined up for her to choose. As I was thinking of her today, I was thinking about another incident, where the owner of this same firm happened to talk to me regarding cheating of staff .

To be frank, I am no good at taking sides with both the workers or the owners because what I feel is both of them would be right.

In my situation, if I am going through a difficulty in the work place, there are no actual words for the feelings which can be explained and I am one person, where I am not good at talking my own thoughts, then how would they understand ? and naturally, I am misunderstood. So, I think, that in general but that is the issue here, its the basic failing of all.

We cannot judge anybody because he/she was not able to explain clearly and with facts. But some are good at lying very smoothly, that we wouldn't know, even if our underwear was taken from our body, they can explain it smoothly. So, let it be whether he is a liar or a truthful person, we do not want to know about it. And we are not here to prove.

Personally, I would never want a liar or a cheater in my firm and I know you are nodding with me. But how will you know, who is good and who is bad? Well, I do not know, and that happens to you too. But you would like to start a venture or you are a proud owner with people working for you.

Then, there is one science which you should have or you should cultivate - The Science of Faith.

In all the scriptures in all religions, we have this important science from the very beginning to the very end - Faith.

I will quote the Bible , Truly I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea,’ and does not doubt in their heart but believes that what they say will happen, it will be done for them. "Mark 11:23 


Do not think, I am talking spiritual, we human beings are and always will be a spiritual being, just I am talking Sanskrit doesn't mean, its spiritual, its rubbish. Its a basic fact.

So hear me out,

When you were born, the first time opened your eyes, did you recognize your parents? Did anyone say, Hi, dad, mom or Mr. & Mrs. Joseph, or Mr. & Mrs. karim or Mr. & Mrs. Shenoy, how are you? Did you continue saying,  I hope you  don't mind me barging into your family with nothing?

No, you just cried and that is what it is, we do not have any choice regarding who our parents should be? or who our family should be? or what our situation should be? The parents, the family, the circumstances, all came to us and we live with it. Why? Because we do not have a choice.

Yes, exactly, the only thing we can do is do justice to that situation with our presence, with our identity, the mark and that is what we are here for, but that is one Hereculean task - Do Justice!!!!!! To be frank, I am really struggling to do the justice part and it is not easy. But I would like you to all know, that you will have to do justice or else, you will have to pay for the consequences.

So now, you know, you will have to do justice, but how? Its simple. You know, who you are, right? I will answer it for you.

You are a Human Being born to fulfill a cause. In Hindu religion, we have the avatars of Lord Vishnu and while reading each stories of the avatar, we come to know that Lord Vishnu was born to fulfill a specific purpose in each avatar. And that is the same with you and me.

We are here for a purpose and that purpose can be fulfilled only through the people and the circumstances where we are put in, thereby your thoughts, your attitudes, your insights, etc..etc... has been groomed accordingly.

So, you know how you will behave in each situation. Imagine I am born in a very poor family. And I do not have sufficient to eat, my family and myself are most of the time starving. So, when I find a sack of food just lying on a road or in a compound, unsupervised, what will be my first instinct - to take it home, right?

And that is what you are seeing with others too, you are putting your thoughts into others head, your ambitions into others heart and think for them. By the strength of your thoughts, others behave what you are forcing them to behave, and that is what you will see and face.

Now if you know who you are, no matter what the circumstance is or the family is, when the same situation of the unsupervised food sack is in front of you. You just go in search of the owner and try to return it back to them. Then that will be the  attitude you will get upon our day to day experiences. Nobody will cheat you.

I will tell one thing in my experience, people have charged me money more than what it is, but I give them because I believe that is what it is,  I do not charge more than what it is and even if I feel that man has cheated me, I give him happily. Do you know why?

The money charged from me exorbitantly returns back to me or the whole money which I had spent for the same thing, surely not through the same source but some other way. If that is what is going to happen when you are cheated, then why worry. Just give it.

If you have faith, that you have not cheated others or taken from others more than what they are entitled to you, then do not worry about it or nag about it. It will return to you.


So do not nag about the cheating attitude of the working class. Nobody cheats you, unless you have cheated others. What you did is what comes back to you.

Now, have you wondered, why we are so focused about others cheating us or not dedicated workers? Its because you want to become rich, you want to have everything what your heart wishes and that can be had only if you have Money- Loads and Loads of it. Am I right?

 Remember, Money is not to be amassed, but to be lived, to sustain you with food, clothes, shelter, etc.... and if you are with family, then that would also be sustained. If that is fulfilled, then we are all lucky guys, the rest of the money would naturally go wasted, someone will use it and what happens to the hard work, the money amassed through foregoing our precious moments with family, friends, loved ones? And then die when all the coffers are full? Will you be happy? I do not think so. I would say, life was just wasted for nothing.

The money amassed by cheating, bribing, hurting, swindling, stealing, lying, without giving proper salary, or keeping the wages, etc..etc...? or money amassed in the right way and not utilized, so that you can have a better during a later period when you do not have the resource to make wealth.

Believe me, all goes into thin air in the first place and above that, the consequences of all the things you have done will have to be faced. Is it worth it?

Make money, share it and bring some smile to others in your day to day life, by being there for yourself and others, who knows, tomorrow, whether  you will live or not. What is for you, is not for you alone, there are other people who are entitled to the share of your earnings. It doesn't necessarily be your family. Give some to the people working for you. They are a very big reason for you having so much money.

Take Care. Live Your Life.

To conclude,

"If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing."  1 Corinthians 13:2 

Have A Nice Life!!!!!!!!!

Meena