Monday, December 7, 2015

Are We able To Fulfil Expectations?

Never!!!!!

That is a basic truth for all human beings. We cannot fulfill others expectations. Its not your or my fault. Its the basic way of things.

But are we able to fulfill our expectation?

I would say Yes.

One wonders why?

Well, its easy, when it comes to fulfill others expectation, the deciding factor is others or themselves, some guys are really perfectionist and if they are our measuring markers. Believe me, "We are Doomed!!!!"

Anyway, I would say, its really good, that we are compared with the best and in the long run, we tend to measure ourselves with that standard, thereby raising ourselves to that stage and striving for that perfection.

Can I say one thing? I would rather say, do not put a marker for your standard. Marker restricts you to only a certain standard, you can go above that, for sure. Isn't it good news!!!!

As I am saying this markers and expectations and standards, I feel like I am talking about a marathon, with lots of markers, standards and one big goal, the finishing line. After finishing the race, then what next? Another marathon?

You know, we are best in many things but not in all and when we try to make ourselves perfect for all that we are not what will happen after that, we go for the next destination of perfection and afterwards, another and another, its a never ending quest and in the process, we get old,  we die. The show is finished.


What do you think? Have we lived?

I am not answering that for you because you know better. But for me, this is not Life. This is not right?

We are not alone here, we have family, friends, teachers, neighbours, colleagues, room mates, inmates, etc....

We are here in the midst of these people for a purpose. They are there for us and we are there for them, remember, the imperfect me is perfect for them and the imperfect them is perfect for us. Either way, give the best of everything of ours. I will give an example :-

  1. If you are a child, you can help your parents, obey them. Do your studies without your parents scolding you to study. 
  2. If you are a parent, (father or /and mother you are responsible to provide and care for the family, by earning for the family and helping the children in all aspects of their life without ill treating or harassing, helping the spouse. 
  3. If you are a professional, give the best of what you are made of, no matter what or where or who. 
  4. If you are an employee, employer, businessman, etc..etc... we have duties, give the best.  

When you give the best, you will bring happiness to oneself. Then you will start loving your self. When you start loving your self, that love is filled within you and as time passes, you tend to give the best of your Self and making you love more and more, which starts overflowing. That is when love and affection spreads to others. This love transcends into dedication, automatically, we give our best in every way, and that becomes perfect for you, for me and for the whole world. That will  be the fulfillment of the expectation.

In short, Do your work with love and you will be fulfilling all the expectations. I see you rolling your eyes. But Seriously, try it. Live with love, you will be happy and you will make a better place where you are. At least when you are in your death bed, you feel contented, you will feel, "I did Right with myself and my life." Want to bet? (Smiling!!!!!)

Enjoy Life!!!!!!!!

See you soon.

Meena

Monday, November 16, 2015

Never Ever Say Goodbye!!!

Dear Guys

Today, I had a very sad experience, when I came face to face with separation of one of my best friends.

You know, that is when we feel that nothing is predictable,

Remember, "The moment we have now is the best moment and it doesn't necessarily last". 

Each word, each action, each attitude do count in the long run, when we create our own destiny. But we tend to forget that in the long run, the destiny is created with many others tagging along. In short, our  destiny do have a greater impact on others than to us.

The destiny starts with Words falling from our mouth.

I will give an experience of mine.

My children, I have two. They are very arrogant, some times, I really hate that when they show it to me and I do not tolerate when they show that attitude.

Once, it so happened, that my younger son, said something arrogantly to me and Bang!!!! I  smacked him right on his mouth. (In India, we parents have the privilege to both pamper and punish our children at the right time. And that is a necessity for all the parents, who want their kids to be a good citizen. And there is no point waiting for them and making them understand at the right time at the right place, than the time it happens.) He just stared dumbly with his hand on his mouth.

Then he asked, "what was that for?" I said, "Never ever utter a word of that sort, not only to me but anybody else in this whole wide world, understood!!"

"But I didn't mean in the wrong sense."

"Well, it came from your mouth in the wrong way. So, do not bother to use it again right or wrong(you should have seen his face)."

From that day onwards, he made sure, he never used those words, well I have not heard it for sure, at least he will remember my smack, When I heard it, I was shocked, My son, speaking to me, in such a manner? No way!!!!!! still my hand tingles when I remember it. So surely he might too!!!

But after that incidents and several incidents, I know, if you want something good to happen, better shut your mouth

Now back to the present, when my friend said, that its time for her to move on, I wondered what might be the reason and her reply brought my son to mind. The same mistake, my son made, happened to her, but in this case it was her friend a very matured person who hurt her with his words.


You know as we grow older, we feel, we can do anything and that is right. But truly, this life on this Earth is not an easy one, we all walk on broken glass, one misstep and that is going to pierce us. And physical hurt can heal but not the hurts created with words.

Do not take it for granted our relationships, marriage (husband-wife), parenthood(parents-children-parents-parents), friends, colleagues, whoever. More than the actions, its the words that should be put under lock and key, censored and minimalised.

I say, and say, do not hurt with your words, its more bruising than anything. At least you can control what comes from your mouth, can't you not? I try not to talk at all. I am really scared to do that. Truly, when I say that, I have gone through all these things and faced the consequences over and over again. So I do not want all of you guys to repeat and get to live your life in misery.

Frankly speaking. I train my children to do the same (Just don't over talk and crack jokes a lot), but unfortunately, I feel, they do extra service to make amends for my closed mouth too.

Anyway, in the end, I will be losing one more friend for the sole reason of bad mouth "Gosh!!! what a tragedy.

Be known, each person has only a certain period with us, whether they might be our spouse or our children or our teacher or our student or our colleague or our boss or whoever. There is always a time span for everything, person or situation or things.

Be aware, no matter who you are, cherish whatever you have, until you have them and when their time to leave arrives, let them go happily without any regret,  because that is how it is.

For others, too its the same situation. They are also letting us go, even if it is heart rending, we too have to leave them one day. It will happen, no matter what.

So treat everybody with respect and love. They are entitled to it and we are also entitled to it.

And please make sure to create a good  destiny for you and for others.

Cherish whatever you have, then you will never regret it when it is taken from you. That is a Surety I can give you.

Now, you know why the poet worded

"Chalte!!! Chalte!!! Mere Yeh Geet Yaad Rakhna, Kabhi Alvida Naa Kehnaa..." (while going, remember my song and never ever say goodbye). We create a good memory never ending... loving... happily ever after.....

Take care.

Meena


Friday, November 13, 2015

Throw Your Trash

Hey Guys!!!!

I am continuing from where I left yesterday.

I had requested you to just let yourself give a break from your  and let whatever thoughts come, to pass it through you, right?

And have you tried? What did you feel?

Well, I will say it for you, your mind will be a junk yard in a moment,  am I right?

I will give an example, yesterday, I had an experience where one client asked me, whether there is any chance of getting one room for three days in a specific hotel and when I checked there weren't any availability. So, I said, no, its not available and they left immediately and I didn't feel sad or odd.

But after a few minutes, my mind worked, "Hey Meena, you could have proposed another hotel and for a best price too, and then the thoughts started swirling around, if I had done that, it would have been better, if I had thought about it this way, then I could have another business, etc...etc.. a 101 questions went unanswered. Do you know what the ending was?

I was still in the same situation, sitting in the same chair, in the same office, doing nothing but shuttling and shuffling ideas.  So, what was the point in letting myself a break?

Nothing, just created a clutter, in the sense of thoughts. But in the sense of an experience of missed opportunity, Yes. I learned something.

I know, you will be rolling your eyes, but, its true, everybody has to get an opportunity, not just one. So, if even if you have an opportunity, you still do not get to utilize it but that is utilized by somebody, who needs more than us. Just remember, we are entitled for a better opportunity. I wanted to tell you, that do not think, that you should not feel bad when you miss certain opportunities, its like that or else, our "Self" will know what to do, It will direct you in the right direction. So, just let it go. Now we will have to sort out the clutter of all thoughts, we cannot really sort out any thoughts, it just comes and distracts each and every time, we sit idle or when we want to be at peace and at that time do not go and watch movie or play games or read books, just be your Self as a third person and watch all the drama your thoughts are doing and just Select All the thoughts and delete it. Yes, put it in the trash, yes I mean it put it in the trash, whatever happened, has happened, accept it live it and throw it and get ready to be stronger. That is all.

If you continue with the thought process, you will get angry with yourself, your situation, your friends, family, God, etc...etc... who has no connection at all, don't you think?

But putting in the trash is not very easy, your thoughts will come and haunt you whenever you are free, that is because the mind knows that if it distracts you with these trivial things, then you would be focused on these petty petty issues  and make a mountain, instead of letting you get to the soul of the problem or let you solve the problem, so that you can solve it and move it to trash.

So, as a person now you should be aware, when 101 questions are sprouting in your mind, remember, you are being deviated from the main course.

In the Bible we call it Satan.

"The mind governed by the flesh is hostile to God; it does not submit to God's law, nor can it do so." Romans 8:7

"Once you were alienated from God and were enemies in your minds because of[g] your evil behaviour" Colossians 1 :21

So, now you know who the Satan is - your mind, my mind, our mind. That is what is keeping you in reaching you to God. Any doubts?

Well, I will answer it tomorrow.

Take care and Be Happy.

Meena


Thursday, November 12, 2015

Boring!!!!!!?????!!!!!!

Hey Guys!!!!!


Today, I have not done any work set for me. You might think, what I did?  nothing, just wasted my time, that is all. But did I?

I do not think so, but if you look in the sense of work, yes, but as a human being, we are entitled to just be idle or just be there for us, for me. I have only myself for me. If I cannot spare my own time for me, then who will? So, here I am watching a very romantic Bollywood movie and smiling like a joker, crying like a crypot and I do not regret it even for a moment.

I remember once when for the first time, when my dad taught us to swim, it was like fighting the water with legs and hands and hearts and strength. Once, when I got the feel of it, it was just a matter of enjoying it with caution. Everyone knows life is to be lived, but that doesn't mean always we should live productively, its just letting go off the leash of oneself and get a breather, where you do not have to decide, just let it be.

 It is at that time, we open our self and some thoughts, which has stuck in our hearts, the deeds which we had done, which we didn't do, which should have been done, etc..etc... The words used, the attitudes shown, etc...etc... all comes to us during this break time and that is when we will have to evaluate our doings, that happens without our knowing.

You know the key word is "Unknowingly",  we tend to watch movies, read books, play games, etc....  because we say we are bored, but in truth, we do not want our past deeds good or bad not come and knock us off . So now you know, why this world including me are so busy, either reading (its about me), which people say is good, but in fact its very very bad because you are running away from truth.

When I watch a movie, its the same theory, running away. But well, it will catch up, don't worry, at that time I will be forced to face up all the things I have done, there will be a time, when I will not have anywhere to run to, where I am unable to do anything.

Do you know, why I said this?

So that, your actions when get accumulated, it kind of pounces on you, making you feel a bit lost and lonely. You are born alone and die alone, that fact will stare right on your face which is a simple truth, no matter how many friends you have, how many family members you have or whatever activities you can do, you are still alone in the very depth of our being.

But if you are aware of it time to time without it pouncing on you is far better and much more smoother a transition from the physical world to the spiritual world. You are comfortable with the alone you and you feel like going and being with the alone you, that is when you become spiritual.

So guys, just for a second at least, give yourself a break and let whatever is coming to haunt you, hear it out and rectify it or savour it. It will go on its way after that. Its like a spiritual bath - a healing process. Then you feel like enjoying life in the real sense of the word - The Inner Happiness, where no boring touch.

Take care.

Have a great Life !!!

Meena

Tuesday, November 10, 2015

To All the Owners of the World, My Blessings!!!!!

Dear Guys,


You might think, why all these formalities. Well, to become an owner of a firm or anything is not an easy thing, they have the courage to take a risk, along with that, they tend to help lots of life for the people who are not lucky to own even a spare of cloth without working.

And work, its not easy to find. In this scenario, to own a work force can be had by only a select few. But the attitude of the workers can discourage the mentality of the owners.  Naturally, they get hard hearted to the working class and just focus on making their venture a success.

But these are all not I want to talk. No single person has the same experience as the next person, but the feeling generated will be the same because that is the basic oneness of humanity - the soul.

Now, we are again deviating from the topic of what I wanted to say.

Today, I do not know why, I happened to meet one of my colleagues, who happened to resign from her job. You know, in India, its a very big decision for a lady to resign her job and if the said lady has only a basic education, then the chances of making a change from whatever her current position is next to nil. She would tolerate a walk on the fire and still retain her job. So when I heard the lady, a mother of two and poor to boot throw away her job, I was just shocked, that is a very small word to what I was feeling. But I didn't show the actual emotion of what I felt and gave her half a dozen of tissues and an ear to hear her vows.

If I may say so, the place she was working had a set of very good workers in each section, which, if I was a boss, I would keep them in my very palm of my hands, so that, I would never make them consider leaving my firm, in any sense of the word and one such person was this lady. I told her so, "you know, the loss is not yours, but theirs. They would never get such a good worker, a dedicated worker as you."

Anyway before long, this lady had several job opportunities lined up for her to choose. As I was thinking of her today, I was thinking about another incident, where the owner of this same firm happened to talk to me regarding cheating of staff .

To be frank, I am no good at taking sides with both the workers or the owners because what I feel is both of them would be right.

In my situation, if I am going through a difficulty in the work place, there are no actual words for the feelings which can be explained and I am one person, where I am not good at talking my own thoughts, then how would they understand ? and naturally, I am misunderstood. So, I think, that in general but that is the issue here, its the basic failing of all.

We cannot judge anybody because he/she was not able to explain clearly and with facts. But some are good at lying very smoothly, that we wouldn't know, even if our underwear was taken from our body, they can explain it smoothly. So, let it be whether he is a liar or a truthful person, we do not want to know about it. And we are not here to prove.

Personally, I would never want a liar or a cheater in my firm and I know you are nodding with me. But how will you know, who is good and who is bad? Well, I do not know, and that happens to you too. But you would like to start a venture or you are a proud owner with people working for you.

Then, there is one science which you should have or you should cultivate - The Science of Faith.

In all the scriptures in all religions, we have this important science from the very beginning to the very end - Faith.

I will quote the Bible , Truly I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea,’ and does not doubt in their heart but believes that what they say will happen, it will be done for them. "Mark 11:23 


Do not think, I am talking spiritual, we human beings are and always will be a spiritual being, just I am talking Sanskrit doesn't mean, its spiritual, its rubbish. Its a basic fact.

So hear me out,

When you were born, the first time opened your eyes, did you recognize your parents? Did anyone say, Hi, dad, mom or Mr. & Mrs. Joseph, or Mr. & Mrs. karim or Mr. & Mrs. Shenoy, how are you? Did you continue saying,  I hope you  don't mind me barging into your family with nothing?

No, you just cried and that is what it is, we do not have any choice regarding who our parents should be? or who our family should be? or what our situation should be? The parents, the family, the circumstances, all came to us and we live with it. Why? Because we do not have a choice.

Yes, exactly, the only thing we can do is do justice to that situation with our presence, with our identity, the mark and that is what we are here for, but that is one Hereculean task - Do Justice!!!!!! To be frank, I am really struggling to do the justice part and it is not easy. But I would like you to all know, that you will have to do justice or else, you will have to pay for the consequences.

So now, you know, you will have to do justice, but how? Its simple. You know, who you are, right? I will answer it for you.

You are a Human Being born to fulfill a cause. In Hindu religion, we have the avatars of Lord Vishnu and while reading each stories of the avatar, we come to know that Lord Vishnu was born to fulfill a specific purpose in each avatar. And that is the same with you and me.

We are here for a purpose and that purpose can be fulfilled only through the people and the circumstances where we are put in, thereby your thoughts, your attitudes, your insights, etc..etc... has been groomed accordingly.

So, you know how you will behave in each situation. Imagine I am born in a very poor family. And I do not have sufficient to eat, my family and myself are most of the time starving. So, when I find a sack of food just lying on a road or in a compound, unsupervised, what will be my first instinct - to take it home, right?

And that is what you are seeing with others too, you are putting your thoughts into others head, your ambitions into others heart and think for them. By the strength of your thoughts, others behave what you are forcing them to behave, and that is what you will see and face.

Now if you know who you are, no matter what the circumstance is or the family is, when the same situation of the unsupervised food sack is in front of you. You just go in search of the owner and try to return it back to them. Then that will be the  attitude you will get upon our day to day experiences. Nobody will cheat you.

I will tell one thing in my experience, people have charged me money more than what it is, but I give them because I believe that is what it is,  I do not charge more than what it is and even if I feel that man has cheated me, I give him happily. Do you know why?

The money charged from me exorbitantly returns back to me or the whole money which I had spent for the same thing, surely not through the same source but some other way. If that is what is going to happen when you are cheated, then why worry. Just give it.

If you have faith, that you have not cheated others or taken from others more than what they are entitled to you, then do not worry about it or nag about it. It will return to you.


So do not nag about the cheating attitude of the working class. Nobody cheats you, unless you have cheated others. What you did is what comes back to you.

Now, have you wondered, why we are so focused about others cheating us or not dedicated workers? Its because you want to become rich, you want to have everything what your heart wishes and that can be had only if you have Money- Loads and Loads of it. Am I right?

 Remember, Money is not to be amassed, but to be lived, to sustain you with food, clothes, shelter, etc.... and if you are with family, then that would also be sustained. If that is fulfilled, then we are all lucky guys, the rest of the money would naturally go wasted, someone will use it and what happens to the hard work, the money amassed through foregoing our precious moments with family, friends, loved ones? And then die when all the coffers are full? Will you be happy? I do not think so. I would say, life was just wasted for nothing.

The money amassed by cheating, bribing, hurting, swindling, stealing, lying, without giving proper salary, or keeping the wages, etc..etc...? or money amassed in the right way and not utilized, so that you can have a better during a later period when you do not have the resource to make wealth.

Believe me, all goes into thin air in the first place and above that, the consequences of all the things you have done will have to be faced. Is it worth it?

Make money, share it and bring some smile to others in your day to day life, by being there for yourself and others, who knows, tomorrow, whether  you will live or not. What is for you, is not for you alone, there are other people who are entitled to the share of your earnings. It doesn't necessarily be your family. Give some to the people working for you. They are a very big reason for you having so much money.

Take Care. Live Your Life.

To conclude,

"If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing."  1 Corinthians 13:2 

Have A Nice Life!!!!!!!!!

Meena





Monday, October 12, 2015

Kids Day Speech

“If a child is given love, he becomes loving ... If he's helped when he needs help, he becomes helpful. And if he has been truly valued ... he grows up secure enough to look beyond himself to the welfare of others.”


Honourable chief Guest, Reverend Manager, Respected Principal, Loving teachers and non teaching staff, Dear Parents and friends

I am here before you to speak a few words about “Kids Day”.

Let me first thank our dear principal to have given us our own special day, and my class teacher who gave me an opportunity to speak on this occasion in front of you all.

No matter, how many school days or play times we have, there is one day, which we feel recognized by the whole world, and that is for The Annual Day.

Though the kindergarten section gets to perform, they get immersed in the maze of higher class performance. We all know the kindergarten section is a non entity with respect to a school as big as this one.

But in my School, we kindergartians have been privileged to be acknowledged as individuals of value. And to bring out the very best, in one and all of us,   our Principal has introduced our own Annual Day Celebration , Our Own Perfect Moment– The Kids Day.

 Its a risky business, as well as expensive, along with extra hard work for our teachers, but our management had the courage to be innovative.

Today, is the day, where we, all my friends and myself are exposed to come out of the cocoon of safety and face the glaring world from a podium with our own small courage, reaping the hard work of our teachers with the background support of the management and our parents.

Frankly, its not easy to excel, but the faith invested in us is what brings us this confidence. This in turn prepares us for the ground work to become a good citizen, imbibing the values of discipline, sense of orderliness, humanity and above all respect and obedience  to parents, teachers and to our society. That is what we are here for.

With all due respect to one and all for giving us this opportunity, I conclude.

Thank you.

Have a Great Day

Meena

Saturday, September 26, 2015

I Fear, Do You?

Hey Guys!!!

I would like to speak about Fear. You know, fear of darkness, thunderstorms, stray dogs, etc...etc...

I had all these and much more, I was not aware of it until one fine morning, a very old priest of my father's acquaintance took my pulse and said, "Mr. Mathew, your daughter is a frightened kid. It would be advisable, if you could give her juice of Naruneendi (Hemidesmus indicus). It is actually an ayurvedic medicine, which had no taste but some taste, I cannot explain the flavour of the taste. I had consumed two bottles, before returning to the boarding school.

As time passed, I was wondering, did the medicine really work? And I would say, not really. I had all the fear which I had before but there was one difference, I was aware of it. When the fear raises its head in me, I would know and analyze it,

"with fear, will the problem in front of me get solved?"

"No"

"Then what is the point in fearing?, just face the problem and let it happen, whatever is supposed to happen."

And the funny thing is, nothing which I feared did happen.

So, then what is the point in fearing? To make known that you are human? Forget it. There are loads of things that make us human, don't lose your health and sleep for fear.

You know, fear is natural, everyone should have it or else I would say they are not normal, but the courage to overcome it is what makes the difference in life. They can live their life in full.

I will say my story, a real life experience, which I had yesterday. I hope not those who know me personally read this.

So the story is thus.

I owe a lady Rs. 10,000/- and I had only 1400/- in my account. I had already given word that I will give her the money yesterday and for me, my word cannot be broken. So I told God, "Look God I need the money to pay her, so help me out and I just left it off and continued my work. I told my friend about it and she was a bit sceptical about it because we all know, this God business is a bit queer and its something undefinable and faith cannot be mixed with daily needs, etc...

But for me God, is more real than my own bodily Self. But no one will understand it. So I am not going into that. Anyway, after half an hour, I received a message that one of the clients has paid me the payment for my service which he is planning to take in the month of November and I really got cross eye, seeing the amount because it was exactly, the amount I needed. And that saved the day.

That is what life is, we are living in the unknown and every moment ahead is darkness, no matter, if it is day or night, the next moment of our life is as new as a new born babe and we will have to face it, no matter who you are, whether a prince or pauper. But if you have someone to hold your hand, through all the phases of life, every moment both good and bad, then I would say, don't let that go. And that is where the eternally present God, comes. But You will have to give Him a chance. If you take upon yourself to drive your life to the destination you feel right, then fine, because God can sit idly in the back seat of your life, and then, don't blame God, for not getting your plans and ambitions right.
If God is the driver then, there is no need of Fear, no need of Anxiety, no need of thinking and planning ahead, its just a simple life to be enjoyed, no matter, what the situation is. So think about it. I am happy, how about you?

Take care.

Meena

Saturday, September 19, 2015

Not Faithful? Be Faithful

You know, 90% cases, reported  for marriage break ups is Faithlessness. Like cheating on your spouse, having an affair with another person, etc....etc....

Why does it happen? Well, to know that we will have to check on the basic fact about oneself. It is all connected with the person Me (in your case, its You)

What is faith?

Its the belief of what one have of oneself, of God or of others. It is usually a positive belief, only good things. And it usually filled within the heart & mind so tightly that there would not be an iota of doubt.

Now, when we have a small speck of doubt in our belief, it becomes the truth and we find ourselves facing this doubt, just like looking in a mirror. I will give an example, you have been invited for a big party and you want to look the very best, but, as the days get closer, you get to get tensed, thinking of all the possible mishaps like a small pimple on the face or a car break down or whatever usual fears and lo behold!!! exactly that happens. So whom should we blame, the soap or the cream which you regularly use or the driver who drove you to the party?

There is no one to blame, except you. Its you who creates all this and that is what happens. If you feel, that being with another man or woman, your husband or wife has a good chance of going astray, it happens as such. So, who is the culprit? You.

Yes, there are times, when there are genuine mental sickness, but that case is rare, which can be treated. 

But, most of the time, in life don't bring a single doubt in your heart with respect to anybody. Even the taxi man or the green grocer or children or whoever you are dealing with. They might say untruth, but believe that they would never say lies and that is what happens, it will become the truth.

We cannot change a person, by our words or actions, but we can make it happen by our faith. So next time, think your spouse can never be faithless to you, unless, you are.

Let me conclude, "Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there,' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you." Mathew 17:20

Take Care.

Meena



Friday, September 18, 2015

Save 10 and Make 100? Forget it!!!!

Hey Guys!!!!

I hope you are enjoying life. Well, I am.

What is your criteria of enjoying life?

To have more money than you can spend? or To have good Health? or To visit places? or To be Happy always?

What is happiness?

Oh!!! its complicated to answer this because its a mix of all for some, but for others, it would be specifically some things which, one do not have. It is natural.

I am writing this because, I would like to see everyone happy all the time in their life. 

What is Life's happiness?

Its not very easy to define life's happiness. But I can simplify it by an Egg Omelette.

The Preparation :-

  1. Break an egg into a bowl. 
  2. Whisk it
  3. Add salt & whisk again
  4. Pour it on a hot frying pan greased with oil 
  5. Sprinkle some pepper powder when half cooked
  6. Cook it until done
And the end result - a perfect Omelette. If you love omelette, then it will be a beauty to the eyes, flavour to the nose, perfect taste to your tongue and softness to your touch and lastly, your stomach will get to fill with a delicious food, which will bring joy to the heart.

That is life's happiness, always sense (sight, hear, smell, taste and touch) oriented. So, if something or the other is missing, then what happens to happiness? does it stop working? No way, and that is what I want to focus. The one  and the most important aspect of life which has deep roots in everyone's life - Money. It doesn't bring fulfillments to the senses except a thought to the mind "Do not worry, I have money"

There is an old saying in our Keralan culture that "Even Eagle cannot fly over money." which means, money is everything, it help us reach greater heights.

But is it true?

I don't think so.

I will give a small incident of my life, how money amassed went into thin air. My parents, mom & dad were hard working people, especially my mom. She used to save as much she can, by skipping simple luxuries like eating ice creams, chocolates, or milk with chocolate or good food for herself, (but for us, we had all) and she would bargain with the shop keepers and get discounts, etc..etc.. so that she could reduce the expenditure and have more money to deposit into her income. Years passed and she earned a lot. Yes, its true, she earned a lot.  After 5 years, she decided to open the safe box, which was with my father. She gave all her money to my father for safe keeping because that is how Indian Marriage System works. Anyway, my father gave back the money, in one sentence. "The Money Has Been Stolen". Just imagine the shock of my mother. Don't think my father spent it, no he didn't spend the whole lot, but yes, some. 

We cannot blame both my father or my mother for the loss because, they didn't know the working of Money, in fact the working of the Universe with respect to all matter.

Now Guys, I want you to look around yourself -  the nature. There is nothing stagnant, its always moving. The sun rises and sun sets, the water cycle, the day cycle, the life cycle, etc....etc... If anything is static (Rocks), then its non living. If it is stagnant(water, air), it will stink. If it gets accumulated (leaves, fruits, vegetables) it will rot or it would not be of any use, if not used wisely. And that is the case of money too. What we have is for that moment and for that time alone, if we do not utilize it, then it will be taken from us because it has to move off.

I learned this lesson when I was young. I know, we should save money and not spend extravagantly and all that, but with this simple fact like money moves off, which I have stated, then how will we be able to save money?

Exactly, you cannot. Unless you take the money and invest it in some form or the other, but not in the cash form.

Now, imagine, you have invested your money very wisely and have accumulated much more from it, then what next? You are happy?

As I told, happiness can be had when all the senses get to enjoy the fruit equally. So how come money get to fulfill "All" the senses?

Simple, - By Sharing. Today, I met my friend Louisa, after 6 months, a French Lady, who I found she was very happy and giving very much good happy feeling all around. She recited a story about another French lady, Anna, whom she met in Malaysia, who was retired from service. (Well, this story, she said quite accidentally, when I asked what did she do when she was in Malaysia.) Now back to the story. Anna draws a pension of 300 Euros every month (with this pension, she would not be able to live in France).  So she stays in Malaysia. Her house rent in Malaysia is 70 Euros and the rest is for food and other necessities. We know, its very difficult to manage with just 230 Euros, and to think that she has been managing like that for sometime, it really awe inspiring, isn't it? Anyway Louisa met her quite accidentally while touring and Anna invited her to stay in her house, while searching for a job in Malaysia. So Louisa decided to stay in her house. She was not aware of her situation, until she happened to stay there. So she decided to give the rent for the room (as she pays for the hotel) on a daily basis. Luckily she got a job within a week with free food and accommodation. Even then, Louisa would come and stay with Ann, take her shopping to buy dresses, food items and take her to good restaurants, which she does on a monthly basis for 6 months. Seeing the expression of Anna, the smile, the tears of thank you, cannot be compared to anything, it is the love overflowing from one soul to the other that is what makes the difference, it fills the heart of both the persons, it will fill the holes of unhappiness, bringing a glow from within.

Here, Louisa cannot use the whole amount on her own, if she dies, she cannot take all the money and investment she has made in this Earth with her to the grave, but when she is in the grave, she can at least feel happy, that she was able to bring a smile to another living soul intentionally and that is the best investment. That is how, money brings happiness, peace and contentment.

This type of investment helps you in the long run, you would never be in a situation, were you are short of money, you would never have to worry about sickness because the hormones produced when you are happy is an antibiotic for sickness, you are never in debt, because, just like we withdraw from the bank which we have deposited by wise investment, the sharing of money with another needy person is a wise investment with Life Force bringing positive energy around you, attracting whatever you need unto you, without your signature, without your asking. Isn't it cool?

You know, there are some times, when you are not aware that you are going to need money the very next moment or the next day, and it might be a lot of money you need. But your life force knows it in advance and gets it for you. (I know you have raised your brows. But its true!!!) So then, why are you saving? Why are you bargaining and depriving of someone else's income? Why are you tensed and work very very hard to amass wealth? Have the courage to let yourself go, with all the talents, money and time. And get ready to see the show.

I will say one of my personal experiences of such an instance, In my bank, I had Rs. 80/-. One of my friends asked to loan her some money in the morning, which I refused because I didn't have. When I reached  office, I got a phone call from a client, who said that she is going to deposit a small amount in advance for the services as confirmation she is planning to take from me  (This service, she had asked 3 months back and I had completely forgotten about it). Thirty minutes later another call came from the college of my son saying, he has been selected in the college for the course he had applied for, but for confirmation, I will have to pay the first instalment the very next day, which was a big amount. And I was able to pay with the money I got from the client without any qualms and I didn't have to worry for a single moment.

As the Bible Quotes, "Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?"Mathew 6:26

So, what do you think? Do you feel happy saving that extra 10? or is it worth all the juggling of words for bargaining? Live your life guys and peacefully and happily ever after. Try to share what you have and don't hold on to good things, thinking that you can keep it with you. You are in truth holding on to thin air. Open your hands and your hearts to the nature around you, to the people around you, its worth all of it and much more.

Think about it. And decide however your heart says.......

Take care.

Meena














Thursday, September 17, 2015

Shut Up and Row the Boat Until 20

Hey Guys!!!!

How are you? Today, I would like to talk about kids from the perspective of a mother or let me say parents. I met a mother who was taken to the police station because she asked her daughter to clean her room. Just Imagine!!!!!!

In India, there is one famous saying coming out from 99% of the elders "Children, we too once rowed the same boat." Yes, its really true, the meaning of the saying is, every parent was once a child. They know each and every stage of life, the difficulties passed, the joys of life, the decisions made, mistakes faced, etc...etc.... and reached the prime of life - now. So, they can say it without doubt, they have indeed rowed the boat.

But, have you wondered, why these guys including me, get agitated, when the kids make mistakes?

I will say a story, which happened in my life, when I was young, just for an example and the difference between a child and a parent.

Years back we had a tape recorder, but during those times, the power plug was one in each room. So this tape recorder held the pride of place at night in our bedroom, but unfortunately, the power plug in our bedroom was faulty. So, my dad connected two wires and connected to the plug from the next room.

After prayer and dinner, we were in the bedroom hearing music, when it suddenly stopped. So I jumped out of the bed and went to rectify the problem by connecting the joint firmly and I got electrocuted, to be frank, my first experience of electric shock and I immediately put it down, and without speaking I returned to bed. Seeing my failure, immediately my brother, a very smart boy came and got electrocuted, he too did the same as me, but I knew he too got my experience, since I was watching him. Anyway, my dad, came and connected it and he too got electrocuted and he said it loudly, that it has shock and warned us to not handle the wire again. Note the difference in the above incident? Children, do not say openly the mistakes, but elders do, thus avoiding others to not get hurt.

That time, I didn't feel anything except for feeling safe because I knew how it feels getting an electric shock, but if I had not known that experience, then I know, how I would react. Want to guess, what it would be?

I will anyway word it for you, your thought and reaction.

"Why not, why can't we work with electric plugs and wires? We are old enough to know and decide what is good. Isn't it?"

Remember, the Elders speak, because they have First Hand Experience of it...

Now, the most important phase of anyones life is during the teen age 13-19 yrs. This girl is 17 years. The peak time to feel the unfairness of life. Its really a very crucial time of human life. You might wonder why so. 

The only time to fall in and out of love within a blink of an eye. And especially falling in love part. 

Remember, Its not only you, who have had this experience - Falling in Love, its been there from the beginning of humanity. The parents, grand parents and everyone, who glower at you  when you are in love. 

But to fall in love is an experience,  Its simply wonderful, Its like we are in heaven, nobody can hurt us, In Bible we have heard the saying, "If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also." Luke 6:29. This happens, when we are in love, nobody can hurt us, nobody can anger us, no grudge can be kept within the soul. 

Now you know why, in all the Holy Books, "Love" has so much prominence.

I would want everyone to have that experience, but unfortunately, there is a big mistake everyone make when falling in love. The first thought that comes to mind is, "This is life, I have met my soul mate, I have reached my destination, I have found what I was searching for. Now, I do not want to be separated from my loved one. So, we are ready to let go off all our ambitions and inhibitions without any conditions" It is like giving a blank signed cheque to our first love. That is when elders interfere, saying, you are wrong and then starts a living hell - A nightmare.

Love is a smoke screen. It will blanket the basic truths from our sight, but it will lift, when we use the freedom, just like we had with our parents and family. He or she is a new person attached to us within a moment's notice. They do not know our likes, dislikes our weakness or strengths, they behave as they do in their family and you behave as you did in yours and it clashes, that is when your love would start getting the first bite. That should not happen, the biting part, that is what the elders want to make you understand, which sometimes would not be refined to your taste.

Remember " The Rowing Boat " when in Love  . Remember the elders are right, and do not open your mouth to talk against them, their advice. Do not think or decide until you complete 19 and start 20. When you reach 20 and still feel the same, then go ahead, the chances are surviving are more without biting dust of crap love.

Do you want my experience? I decided at 24 and still I did bite dust. That is Life, and I am happy because, it was my decision and live with it.

Now back to life until 20. Focus on Three Things:- 

1. Your family:- be open with them with your feelings because they know, the symptoms as I am explaining to you, they can give the right direction. In the end, only they will be there for you whether you have accepted or gone against them.

2. Your Studies :- Only then, you can stand on your own two feet instead of none when you cross 20 - Job is a necessity, no matter how rich your family is, only education can bring food on your table and strength to your confidence. Its a back up till you reach your grave, with or without family's support.

3. Pray to God :- Have faith in God. Remember, you might have big big plans, but there is one thing we do not have control - our life. But God has.

So, returning back to the daughter who dragged her mother to the police station, its not the daughter's fault or her mother's, its the fault of her age because, the policeman told, secretly to the mother, "Sister, we have seen worst cases than this one, even though we know, she is in the wrong, just take a different route to make your child obey you, than saying it bluntly."

 That is what is missing from the elders and parents alike, including me - refining truth. You know, after going through all the experiences first hand from day one of life, one tend to forget refinement. Its better to be open and finish it off than cloaking and pampering the sensibilities of the young adolescents. But know one thing, refined or unrefined, truth is the same. So do not react against elders for saying the truth and once again I say, just shut up until 20.

Just look back, when you were toddlers, you didn't have a care. When you were in kindergarten, it was the same and your childhood, - it was liberating, not a care, sleep, eat, play and study. But when you stepped to become 13, the life started to feel unfair. How come, one fine day, you get to feel life unfair, when until 13, it was fine? Don't you think it weird? Same father, same mother, same family, their big mouth and same circumstance, then how come one fine morning, it became different?

Its because you changed, the changed happened within you. Its in your body, extra hormones started being produced within you. That you should know. You should be aware of it. It is natural, but  that change should be lived very carefully because, this is the time, when you make decisions - rash or wise or whatever. 

Again, I would recommend,  don't make any decisions until you turn 20, wise or otherwise because you have not lived your life, to forecast the result of your decisions. But when you reap the result, it would be too late to make any changes. So, once more, Let God and parents or elders do it for you and Shut up until 20.

Life is to be lived, loved, obeyed along with the one single important duty - studies, until 20. 

So, once again I say, If you can shut your mouth until 20. Then you have a better chance to row the boat of life without much hazards. Anyway, I know what you teens are thinking... 

"Why Can't I ......?"

Well, as for the daughter of the mother, she hates her mother, stopped her studying and sits simply and watches television from dawn to dusk... I do not know, whether its a sad thing because we elders would sigh and shake our heads and say...

"Experience is the Best Teacher." 

Open your Mouth, Decide, Live and Welcome to the Rowing Club. Because I too am in it.


Best of luck Guys!!!

Meena


Wednesday, September 16, 2015

No Promises Please!!!!

Dear Guys!!!

Today, I do not know whether I should be sad or glad. My thoughts flew to my dad, who was one of my best friends.

Though it has been 27 years since he passed away, there are somethings which I learned from his life experience and the one that really moulded is me his death.

My mother cried from the moment the doctor gave the verdict, he has passed away.

She cried for months, followed by years.

Slowly, I came to know, that my dad could not fulfill 90% of his promises he made in his ife, the 10% he fulfilled was for me and it was 100% of his promises he made to me.

Then and there, I decided never make promises, which cannot be fulfilled, yes, I understand, that its simply words.

But behind those words are attached the hopes and expectations of not one, but many persons, remember, each action always ensues a chain reaction.

I have always wondered, what my dad would have thought when he became a soul. Well, I cannot be a judge of his character, but if I were in his place, I would have thought, "I wasted my life, I was not able to bring joy to myself."

Why joy to Oneself?

When you are able to keep your word, when you are able to help someone, when you are able to utilize your maximum potential and some more, then it brings a joy and contentment from within oue Self. That is what makes our life a success. That is the only thing that matters in the end.

Anyway, since I am no judge of anybody and from my experience, I would say, my dad might have fulfilled his promises. If not, then he would be thinking of ways and means to fulfill his promise,

You might be wondering, why does he want to, fulfill when in the grave, its just that, when we get the promise, we to remember or remind ourselves of the promise to be fulfilled or not fulfilled, its a sigh going out from our very soul and that sigh can really breach the very foundation of all barriers, to be frank, even the very foundation of heaven, then imagine, how much will normal souls would be affected!!!!


 well, who knows, my father might be reborn to complete his destiny of previous lives.... Yuck!!! That's disgusting. Forget it.. I do not even wish for my worst enemies for a rebirth in this suffocating world.

Anyway, I do not like to come back, even if this life was heaven.

Do you know, why I said this, do not make promises or else be prepared to get yourselves shackled for another 50 odd years in this world.

So, how are you guys? I hope you all are keeping fine.

Take care.






Thursday, September 3, 2015

Social Network and Youth - Speech

Life is a post with likes,/ love, /follow,/ friends, /comments /& share./
To get to know someone without actually seeing them in person./
To express oneself within nano seconds./
Editing & Deleting posts, when they don't make sense./
That…/ is our Post Millenial Generation /– The Youth/

Honourable Judges, Respected Teachers & My Dear Friends/

Today, I am here before you to say a few words about

Social Network and Youth”/
             
We are in an age of interactivity, /multimedia/ & multi-tasking,/ Social Media or Social Networking has a very important role in the life of our youth./ Google,/ Facebook,/ twitter,/ youtube, etc./ are some of them. /Social Network,  has both positive and negative impacts depending on the usage. /

Hacking, pornography, etc. are some of the few bad things possible through social networks/ but in contrary/ it can play a vital role in the capacity building of youth./ The technologies like blogging, / uploading,/ sharing/ can help in building reputation,/ bringing in career opportunities and monetary income./

In social media/ youth get the facility to present their ideas in front of the virtual communities increasing their confidence level,/ thus providing the platform for any youth to advertise themselves and to show their hidden talent in front of the world./

In short,/ with the connectivity it provides, /the creativity it allows,/ and the breathtaking wealth of information within the fingertips/ makes Social Networking a boon to the society./ Rather than focusing on the bad impacts on youth,/ we should try to catch the opportunities to boost our energies with the help of social media or social networking./

Thank you.