Sunday, July 31, 2011

Proverbs

When I saw these proverbs, I felt like laughing because of its familiarity and the wisdom I felt when I used it. It made me think that its better to think twice before making myself wise or clever or a REAL FOOL by quoting proverbs. Why don’t you read it?
                    Proverbs                               Proverbs

Actions speak louder than words.
The pen is mightier than the sword.
Knowledge is power.
Ignorance is bliss.
Look before you leap.
He who hesitates is lost.
A silent man is a wise one.
A man without words is a man without thoughts.
Beware of Greeks bearing gifts.
Don't look a gift horse in the mouth.
Clothes make the man.
Don't judge a book by its cover.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Better safe than sorry.
Money talks.
Talk is cheap.
The only thing constant is change.
The more things change, the more they stay the same.
Two heads are better than one.
If you want something done right, do it yourself.
Many hands make light work.
Too many cooks spoil the broth.
Great minds think alike.
Fools seldom differ.
Birds of a feather flock together.
Opposites attract.
The bigger, the better.
The best things come in small packages.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Out of sight, out of mind.
What will be, will be.
Life is what you make it.
Cross your bridges when you come to them.
Forewarned is forearmed.
What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
One man's meat is another man's poison.
With age comes wisdom.
Out of the mouths of babes and sucklings come all wise sayings.
The more, the merrier.
Two's company; three's a crowd.

Be wise and keep smiling.

Meena

Why Tears?

       Tears, the one thing that couldn’t be replaced with anything in life. For joy, for sorrow, for excitement and for all occasions tears take  the centre stage. When the just born wails out his first cry, the mother cries, initially, out of happiness then later it changes to other reasons. Then the string of cries starts, the young, the old, man and woman all are in league with tears at opportunities uncalled for. But why do we drop the tear?
       Well, for me I got to thinking of tears when my younger son howls out for every possible reason, pouring out his downpour, which makes like putting a stopper to his eyes. Usually in human culture women are more susceptible to tears but now, the culture has completely changed, I feel that the men are vying to equal their stance in tears too, just seeing my son’s tears. Don’t misinterpret.
       So to the matter at hand,  tears have connection with the soul, that’s for sure. It just triggers when something has touched the soul of the person. I remember, a widow who had been given an ultimatum to be thrown out of her husband’s house within 6 months was gifted with a new house. I was there when she took her first step to her house. She was crying profusely when she, with a lighted lamp entered the doorstep, not only me  but all the others who witnessed this scene cried. Then I knew, the power of tears is more powerful than the words of thanks. It was a moment to behold. In short it can be used to say thank you from the very bottom of the heart. Anyway, I’d rather opt for thank you than tears.
       Another scene which I often expect tears is during the beauty pageant contest. When the crown is named, there are tears from the beauty without marring the make up. But I do not know how she manages it but when the beauty drops her tears I have a smile, feeling happy for her. But I think this type of crying can be had only through sheer practice, what do you all think? Well, good for the beauty or else the whole world would have a bad impression of her if she didn’t cry and if she cried a lot a bad photo ensues, isn’t it? So, we’ll let her cry beautifully.
       But do you know, that tears can cure you? Well, I had to study a poem in 3rd class, “Home They Brought The Warrior Dead”. In that poem the poet describes  really heart rending scenes to make the wife of the warrior to weep or else she will die of broken heart. And to be frank, I too was relieved by the last two lines of the poem,
“Like Summer tempest came her tears,
Sweet my child I live for thee.”
       Even I too cried with that wife, or else I too would have died heartbroken, thinking how much grief the lady is suffering. This proves that tears are a cure to our hurting soul. Its a vent hole to our anger. It is a connecting cord with all the human souls - The invisible bond which ties us together with the next human being. So, the next time when something stirs within you when someone cries, just don’t let it pass by feel it and share it. That’s what tears are for.
       But I’m not sure with my son, I’ll have to speak to him regarding that, at the earliest or else I’ll have to keep a bucket handy, if I have got to feel and share it with him, Just joking.
       So now you know why tears? – To cry, silly.
Meena
      
      

Saturday, July 30, 2011

Prayer

          I have always thought that prayer is saying all the prayers we have studied, for making us rich, for making us studious, for getting a house, etc...There are loads of readymade prayers for all occasions but isn’t there something missing in it? Yeah, even I have felt it too. Normal human being is still striving to find, what is it?
          I believe in God. I have full faith in Him. But I have felt that He doesn’t need all these readymade prayers. I, in my life had everything in life, whatever I wished for, everything came in abundance but they didn’t bring one thing, and that was happiness, peace and above all contentment.
          We do not get it even if we strive for it. Happiness, peace & contentment cannot be bought, we feel we can be happy if we had this, but when we get that we are not that much happy as we had thought, then what again? Search for another reason to be happy.
          Nothing can bring the fulfilment, it should come from within,  from the soul. But I found out very early in life and that too accidentally. I was totally alone in my boarding, as my parents were late to arrive (approximately 1 1/2 days) to collect me and I was sitting talking to God, because we have a tendency to look at Him  when the trouble comes to say, You did this to me. I was also just doing that.  I felt that the reason for all my miseries was because of God. So I asked Him, Why? Why are you hurting me so? Why did you bring me to life? Why me? etc..etc.. I didn’t get any answer but I was at peace, do you know why? All the staff in the boarding were sooooo caring, they made sure I did not cry. So I loved every moment of the time when I was alone. I was not angry with my parents. He made my life a bit good for the moment. At that time I was just 6 years old and I thought, “Oh, because I asked, he heard.
          So from then on, I thought its better to say whatever happens to Him and He will solve it easily, Why worry? I had this habit of talking to God, saying lots of things, everyday things, my happiness, my fears, my dialogues, my thoughts, everything and He helped me a lot in solving my problems. Just imagine how much a 6 year old boarder could solve a problem? But I solved it, because I was not who solved it. He placed the right persons in front of me and gave me the right words too. Thus I was saved until now from lots of dilemmas in life.
          Now I feel that boarding life was my best life because I had a lot of time for Him. I didn’t pray a lot but I spoke with all my heart as I do to a friend and thus Jesus became my friend because I knew Him. Even now, I’m not good at all the readymade prayers but I speak to him secretly with all my love to a person who loved me from my childhood. That’s how you would feel to a person, who helped you in every turn of life, won’t you?
           But that doesn’t mean I don’t have any problem and am always happy. God, I have lots of small, small, little, little problems. Well! THAT’S LIFE. But He gives us the strength to overcome it. That’s where prayer comes.
            Prayer is the heart felt speech to God - The All Powerful Person. It doesn’t need any grammar or beauty in language. But it needs one thing – love and genuineness. If its there, then don’t worry, your prayer would be answered. That’s for sure. Why don’t you try? Just speak with your heart to the Lord you believe. Then you can see the miracle.
Hope to see  lots of miracles.
Meena
         

Thursday, July 28, 2011

Second Thoughts

          The first time I decided was when I was 7 yrs old. I didn’t know, that would later decide my fate in life. It was the Annual Day Function of my school and my dad came early, as I was a boarder, he thought he could meet me and be with me. But I was so angry with him for putting me in the boarding, I didn’t even look at him (at that age I didn’t know, I could have such strong will. But any way I did.) I saw him sitting in the front row during the first part of the functions and then when the anniversary finished, I looked for him but it was too late, he had gone. That day I would never forget - The sadness in my dad’s eyes, the defeated walk and for my part I had a very heavy heart seeing my dad’s empty seat. I couldn’t control my tears. I cried and cried the whole night.
        From that day I have always repented for that action and I would always think this situation before I decide any major decisions. But this same situation came when I grew up so I took a positive action, where the person at the receiving end was elated but I didn’t have the wisdom to think it would be a nightmare after that.
       It was just the decision of the moment. To make at least someone happy, even if it would hurt my life. So now I understand that, both the decisions were wrong and I had second thoughts.
       When our elders decide they do it by experience, but when we are a kid (until marriage) we feel that we are right, the parents are out dated and so we decide what is right for us, but it would backfire in the end. We would not be able to undo it.
       As the old saying goes, words once spoken cannot be taken back and that goes with actions too. So when you decide, just ask two or three elders, they can share their ideas too and ask a person, who have had experience with it directly too and still if you’re adamant or strong that your part is correct, then go forward with your decision, so that you won’t have second thoughts.
       The funny part is I told my part of second thoughts but my friend is a person, who always discusses her problem openly and try to get different opinions and then decide it with lots of thought and care and takes her own time but now she has lots of second thoughts in life, which I feel that she hasn’t asked the right questions or else how can she have such a lot of second thoughts?
       So the questions which you should ask whenever you decide is:-
1.  Am I doing it right?
2.  If yes, why is it right? What do I get from it? For How Long? And who all would benefit?
3.  If no, why is it wrong? What are the disadvantages? For how long? And who all would be hurt?
If the answers you get it is to your liking then do what is right. To Avoid second thoughts.
But life is always a surprise and we do a lot of mistakes in life and that doesn’t mean that we have failed ourselves. This is just a stepping stone. We learn from it and that’s how we gain wisdom. Then when we become old, we are a store house of knowledge, experience and wisdom. In Short Second Thoughts make us wise. They are the turning points in life. Take Care.
Meena
      

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Politeness

            A virtue which I learned very early in life. Which every child should learn from childhood itself. It happened when I was 8 or 9 years old. I was travelling in a train from Kerala to Karnataka. A short trip and a keralite family were our near neighbours. Father, mother ands a son. The son might be 16 or 17 years old. The boy was very uncomfortable to sit with the rest of the family. So he used to go near the door and stay there. When the time to eat came, the father goes and invites him to eat and he comes with such sore face that I felt very sad for the parents. And when he came he found out that he didn’t like the food they bought and he started shouting at his mother. The expression of the mother was so sickening that I mentally called him names. I couldn’t forgive him for what he had done to his parents.
            And after years back, when my son said something of that sort to me, I just thrashed him, then and there. You might think, it brutal but for me, I acted on my own gut instinct because if he repeats it, he would think twice or to be frank, he shouldn’t think at all to speak impolitely to elders and especially to his mother and that goes to all children who has to live in the society.
            So  politeness should come from within. A respect for oneself and others through love brings out politeness. Its a necessity. We give children what they need but the first thing they need to be taught is politeness - The way to behave with others and to control their feelings. Just because they  don’t like somebody or something that they have the licence to shout at anybody.
            But that doesn’t prove that all kids are the same. I had a friend named Divya, her father was a drunkard and they both lived in a small house. Her father was a very nice man but he drank so much that he usually falls off the roadside or in the gutter and it was Divya, with the help of neighbours broght him home. I have never heard her grumble or fight with her father and he didn’t know, the severity of the situation. But one day, while Divya was out of station, her father drank and he stumbled in a gutter and no one rescued him and he woke up in the gutter. He felt very humiliated and asked his neighbour how come he came to be in the gutter and why would anyone want to humiliate him? The neighbour  replied, you are usually in the gutter, only thing is your daughter takes you out of it at night itself. So how would she feel taking you out of it everyday. He couldn’t believe his ears and felt sad that he had been humiliating his daughter on a daily basis. When Divya arrived home, her father was sober and cooking food for her. She was surprised to see a drastic change in her father. He broke down in front of her and begged her forgiveness. She didn’t know the matter, but she said, Dad, you are my father, I love you and I haven’t had any problems with you, then why are you saying sorry to me? Then he recounted his experience he had the day before. From that day onwards, her father never touched liquor. So now you know, politeness can both make and break a relationship.
            So whenever you see someone impolite stop him going further, because we are also a part of the society. Sometimes, you can become the change to the boy. Though he might not accept it, he might think later, that he had wronged. So for the time being, Be Polite.
Meena

Monday, July 25, 2011

Proverbs With A Twist

I saw these proverbs, I felt like laughing because of its familiarity and the wisdom we felt when we used it. Making me think that its better to think twice before making ourselves wise or clever or a REAL FOOL. Why don’t you read it?
                    Proverbs                               Proverbs

Actions speak louder than words.
The pen is mightier than the sword.
Knowledge is power.
Ignorance is bliss.
Look before you leap.
He who hesitates is lost.
A silent man is a wise one.
A man without words is a man without thoughts.
Beware of Greeks bearing gifts.
Don't look a gift horse in the mouth.
Clothes make the man.
Don't judge a book by its cover.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Better safe than sorry.
Money talks.
Talk is cheap.
The only thing constant is change.
The more things change, the more they stay the same.
Two heads are better than one.
If you want something done right, do it yourself.
Many hands make light work.
Too many cooks spoil the broth.
Great minds think alike.
Fools seldom differ.
Birds of a feather flock together.
Opposites attract.
The bigger, the better.
The best things come in small packages.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Out of sight, out of mind.
What will be, will be.
Life is what you make it.
Cross your bridges when you come to them.
Forewarned is forearmed.
What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
One man's meat is another man's poison.
With age comes wisdom.
Out of the mouths of babes and sucklings come all wise sayings.
The more, the merrier.
Two's company; three's a crowd.

Be wise and keep smiling. I'm also trying to smile.

Meena