Monday, November 16, 2015

Never Ever Say Goodbye!!!

Dear Guys

Today, I had a very sad experience, when I came face to face with separation of one of my best friends.

You know, that is when we feel that nothing is predictable,

Remember, "The moment we have now is the best moment and it doesn't necessarily last". 

Each word, each action, each attitude do count in the long run, when we create our own destiny. But we tend to forget that in the long run, the destiny is created with many others tagging along. In short, our  destiny do have a greater impact on others than we can predict.

I will give an experience of mine.

My children, I have only two. They are very arrogant some times, I really hate that when they show it to me and I do not tolerate when they show that attitude to others.

Once, it so happened, that my younger son, said something arrogantly to me and Bang!!!! I  smacked him right on his mouth. (In India, we parents have the privilege to both pamper and punish our children at the right time. And that is a necessity for all the parents, who want their kids to be a good citizen. And there is no point waiting for them and making them understand at the right time at the right place, than the time it happens.) He just stared dumbly with his hand on his mouth.

Then he asked, what was that for . I said, "Never ever utter a word of that sort, not only to me but anybody else in this wide world, understood!!"

"But I didn't mean in the wrong sense."

"Well, it came from your mouth in the wrong way. So, do not bother to use it again right or wrong(you should have seen my face."

From that day onwards, he made sure, he never used those words, well I have not heard it for sure, at least he will remember my smack, When I heard it, I was shocked, My son, speaking to me, in such a manner? No way!!!!!! still my hand tingles when I remember it. So surely he might too!!!

Now back to the present, when my friend said, that its time for her to move on, I wondered what might be the reason and the reply brought my son to mind. The same mistake, my son made, happened to her, but in this case it was her friend a very matured person.

You know as we grow older, we feel, we can do anything and that is right. But truly, this life on this Earth is not an easy one, we all walk on broken glass, one misstep and that is going to pierce us.

Do not take it for granted our relationships, marriage (husband-wife), parenthood(parents-children-parents-parents), friends, colleagues, whoever. More than the actions, its the words that should be put under lock and key.

I say, and say, do not hurt with your words, its more bruising than anything. At least you can control what comes from your mouth, can't you not? I try not to talk at all. I am really scared to do that. Truly, when I say that, I have gone through all these things and faced the consequences over and over again. So I do not want all of you guys to repeat and get to live your life in misery.

Frankly speaking. I try my children to do the same, but unfortunately, I feel, they cover for me too.

Anyway, in the end, I will be losing one more friend for the sole reason of bad mouth "Gosh!!! what a tragedy.

Be known, each person has only a certain period with us, whether they might be our spouse or our children or our teacher or our student or our colleague or our boss or whoever. There is always a time span for everything, person or situation or things.

Be aware, no matter who you are, cherish whatever you have, when you have them and let them go happily without any regret, when their time to leave arrives, because that is what it is.

For them, you are also in the same situation. They are also letting us go, even if it is heart rending, they too have to leave us. But it has to happen, no matter what.

So treat everybody with respect and love. They are entitled to it and we are also entitled to it.

And please make sure to create a good  destiny for you and for others.

Cherish whatever you have, then you will never regret it when it is taken from you. That is a Surety I can give you.

Now, you know why the poet worded

"Chalte!!! Chalte!!! Mere Yeh Geet Yaad Rakhna, Kabhi Alvida Naa Kehnaa..." (while going, remember my song and never ever say goodbye)

Take care.


Friday, November 13, 2015

Throw Your Trash

Hey Guys!!!!

Did you read my yesterday's blog? If not do read, only then you will understand, what I am saying today. So, I am continuing from where I left yesterday.

I had requested you to just let yourself give a break and let whatever thoughts come, let it pass through you, right?

And have you tried? What did you feel?

Well, I will say it for you, your mind will be a junk yard in a moment,  am I right?

I will give an example, yesterday, I had an experience where one client asked me, whether there is any chance of getting one room for three days in a specific hotel and when I checked there weren't any availability. So, I said, no, its not available and they left immediately and I didn't feel sad or odd.

But after a few minutes, my mind worked, "Hey Meena, you could have proposed another hotel and for a best price too, and then the thoughts started swirling around, if I had done that, it would have been better, if I had thought about it this way, then I could have another business, etc...etc.. a 101 questions went unanswered. Do you know what the ending was?

I was still in the same situation, sitting in the same chair, in the same office, doing nothing but shuttling and shuffling ideas.  So, what was the point in letting myself a break?

Nothing, just created a clutter, in the sense of thoughts. But in the sense of an experience of missed opportunity, Yes. I learned something.

I know, you will be rolling your eyes, but, its true, everybody has to get an opportunity, not just one. So, if even if you have an opportunity, you still do not get to utilize it but that is utilized by somebody, who needs more than us. Just remember, we are entitled for a better opportunity. I wanted to tell you, that do not think, that you should not feel bad when you miss certain opportunities, its like that or else, our "Self" will know what to do, It will direct you in the right direction. So, just let it go. Now we will have to sort out the clutter of all thoughts, we cannot really sort out any thoughts, it just comes and distracts each and every time, we sit idle or when we want to be at peace and at that time do not go and watch movie or play games or read books, just be your Self as a third person and watch all the drama your thoughts are doing and just Select All the thoughts and delete it. Yes, put it in the trash, yes I mean it put it in the trash, whatever happened, has happened, accept it live it and throw it and get ready to be stronger. That is all.

If you continue with the thought process, you will get angry with yourself, your situation, your friends, family, God, etc...etc... who has no connection at all, don't you think?

But putting in the trash is not very easy, your thoughts will come and haunt you whenever you are free, that is because the mind knows that if it distracts you with these trivial things, then you would be focused on these petty petty issues  and make a mountain, instead of letting you get to the soul of the problem or let you solve the problem, so that you can solve it and move it to trash.

So, as a person now you should be aware, when 101 questions are sprouting in your mind, remember, you are being deviated from the main course.

In the Bible we call it Satan.

"The mind governed by the flesh is hostile to God; it does not submit to God's law, nor can it do so." Romans 8:7

"Once you were alienated from God and were enemies in your minds because of[g] your evil behaviour" Colossians 1 :21

So, now you know who the Satan is - your mind, my mind, our mind. That is what is keeping you in reaching you to God. Any doubts?

Well, I will answer it tomorrow.

Take care and Be Happy.